#polyamory dating

[nudityandnerdery]

The real goal of polyamory is to try and find a meta who can actually pick what restaurant they want to eat at so you don’t have to.

[polyintheburbs]

My boyfriend and I have recently decided to go on a 'break' for the supposed good of our relationship. He seems to think we can make it work in the future, but I'm really upset. The reason for the break is because we are in LDR, and the partner he lives with has expressed jealousy Every Time he texts or calls me, outside of their dedicated time (during which he wouldn't text me at all.) He said it feels like one or the other of us is always upset over not getting enough attention, but he barely talked to me before and now he doesn't talk to me at all. He said that I can't even flirt with him anymore, and that I'm only allowed to talk to him (basically) at their shared convenience. I feel like his partner was the one making rules for my relationship the whole time, and it doesn't feel very fair that he apparently wasn't 'allowed' to talk to me, even though talking was literally our only relationship. Am I being crazy? :/ How do I get over this stupid hurt??

I'm sorry that you are going through this. I know it's difficult.

It sounds like you are more committed to making things work than he is. Being in LDRs are challenging, especially if there's someone there closer.

If he only wants to talk to you when it is convenient for the two of them, you are not being taken seriously as in a relationship. I know it's tough to hear, but this is not a healthy, sustainable relationship and I encourage you to break it off completely.

Time will heal. Distract yourself with hobbies, work, spend time with friends.

Good luck and let me know how things turn out.

[polyamoryfacts]

We r a poly married couple for more than 9 years, from the middle east which means polyamory is illegal and lgbtq is punishable by death. Naturally we can rarely find poly ppl and it’s hard to find poly social groups to share the common poly problems which made me try to share online here . There problem that I’m facing and sorry if it’s a bit long or maybe basic for the poly community, but perhaps you or any of ur followers can have any good advice or input.

I met a girl about 6 months ago that’s not poly and very conservative but we hit it off instantly as friends. I decided that I’m not gonna tell her that I’m poly so she doesn’t get scared away as this will be a very weird concept for her conservative nature. We had a very amazing chemistry and connection to the point that turned us to “close friends” in few months but deep down i know i loved her. And at times i felt that she loved me too. Even my wife noticed how she looks at me and told me that she does love me. but she is too decent to admit it to a married guy. One night we were a bit tipsy and she actually kissed me then she regretted it immediately and since then she is taking a huge step back.

She said that we must stop going out alone and only within our group and that we will treat it as if nothing happened. I was happy for a moment knowing how she felt followed by a heartbreak for how our relationship is becoming now.

My wife even offered to tell her everything about our lives and how we function but I’m afraid that it will push her even further. I would rather be platonic close friends rather than have her think we r weird or extreme and scare her off completely from my life. For now things are going in the direction of friends just in our social groups but not our 1 to 1 close friendship as she is feeling guilty. I want our friendship to be back but I don’t know how to tell her that that kiss was ok and not wrong or cheating on my wife.

Generally speaking, I agree with @polyamandhellaglam's answer on this question, and have some additional thoughts.

You need to be really clear and honest to yourself what your goal here is. Is it to preserve the friendship? Or to eventually have this blossom into a relationship with said woman?

Because if it's the latter, you need to be really clear and unambigious to yourself when you are going to tell her about your polyamorous arrangement. Because if this is going to be a relationship, you have to tell her at some point. You cannot have her forever assume she is leading you into adultery. Make this threshold specific - not "only when I feel it's appropriate", because you never might. But something like "if she breaches the topic of our kiss" or "if she expresses interest in a relationship" is objectively measurable.

Also, it is not clear to me if you told her you enjoyed the kiss. This is another aspect to consider. She might feel as is she was the only one responsible for the kiss and pushing you into something unethical (which you know not to be the case); so she probably has a lot of guilt attached to it. Not saying you should go and tell her now if you haven't. Merely consider what she feels like.

If you can at all socially afford to, I would tell her about how this instance was not bad, at least. But do respect her boundaries, and tell her that you will. Tell her everything you have to tell her beforehand. It may very well be the case that she won’t be okay with the situation, ever, sadly.

Out of curiousity, are you that same couple from this other post? (numerous cws about discrimination of polyamorous and queer people apply to linked post)

[nudityandnerdery]

Carefully vetting your partner's potential dates before letting them join the polycule, because if just one of them shares your weird taste in pizza toppings, you'll finally have leverage to order a large and have leftovers the next day.

[polyintheburbs]

Good for them.

HGTV features first-ever throuple on 'House Hunters'; viewers share praise, express shock

HGTV featured its first-ever three-person couple, or "throuple," on\u00a0"House Hunters" Wednesday, featuring partners Brian, Lori and Geli.

[polyintheburbs]

Who says polyamory doesn't have real world applications?

When you meet people at meet and greets, it's important that you remember names.

This skill comes in handy in my day job as I work with a Jill, Jillian, Julie, and another Jill.

[polyintheburbs]

Is it wrong...

To hit on a salesperson while I’m shopping for a present for the spouse? She is wearing a thumb ring AND a pineapple necklace.

Asking for a friend.

[polyintheburbs]

The sleepover

Pillow fights, mani-pedis, truth or dare, and ice cream. None of that occurred at the latest sleepover.

When Zelda was out of town for work recently, it afforded Willow and I the opportunity to spend the night together. We’ve spent weekends together often, but it’s rare to have a weeknight together.

We met after work, had a nice dinner together and went back to my place. It was a really nice, low-key evening. We joked about it being a sleepover, hence the title and first sentence of this post. That was all Willow’s idea.

Week day mornings are different. On weekends, we usually get up whenever we wake up and get breakfast at the local diner. When you have to get to work, there’s not much time for a big breakfast, especially if you have a morning quickie.

I wonder what the neighbors think about the strange car that occasionally stays all night at my house. If they’re really watching, they’ve probably seen me give Willow a goodbye kiss. I hope they enjoyed the show.