#polyamory relationships

[savageymir]

Yes, she (Eivor) does have 2 hands indeed.. 👀👀👀

[polyamproud]

You don’t have to be polyamorous or non-monogamous to be an ally to polyamorists and non-monogamists. The “polyamory is wrong” polemic, more often than not, comes from ignorance. the people that say this don’t have the same exposure to or education about polyamory and ethical non-monogamy that we do. We say this as a reminder to people fielding this kind of commentary. It’s frustrating to feel wrong, silenced, and misunderstood. Stand in confidence knowing you’ve done and are doing the work. You’re not wrong for living your truth. and we know that soon you’ll discover how right you are. ~image description below~

[Image Description: A single square image with a black background. All text is in lowercase letters. At the top of the image, big white centered text reads “we have more in common than you think.” In the bottom right corner is the “@polyamproud” watermark in white. Beside the watermark is the polycule symbol in white. Taking up most of the image is a Venn diagram with two overlapping circles. The left circle is pink-mauve, the right circle is white, and the overlapping area is pink.

The left circle: Slightly bigger black text reads “polyamory”. Beneath the text is the polycule symbol in white. Beneath the polycule symbol is small black text which reads “multiple partners”.

The right circle: Slightly bigger black text reads “monogamy”. Beneath the text is a single pink heart. Beneath the heart is small black text which reads “one partner”.

The overlapping area: All text is small and alternates between white and black, listing experiences common to both polyamory and monogamy. In descending order, the text reads: “dating”, “doesn’t work for everyone”, “heartbreak”, “partners pursuing mutual romantic goals”, “emotional vulnerability”, “includes all sex & gender identities, orientations, & expressions”, “relies on strong communication”, “jealousy”, “romance”.

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[ivyprism]

More Weapon Headcanons (Riley Edition)

Well, since I added a new weapon to the arsenal, it's time to do more weapon headcanons. Deep breath, this is gonna be a romantic poly thing btw. I WOULDN'T actually date inanimate objects though. Still pretending my gun (whom I lovingly named Harlow), my spear (whom I lovingly named Riley), and my chainsaw (who I lovingly named Reese) are actual humanoids.

Headcanons start (mostly Riley):

Enter Riley! The very bane of KQ's existence! They are a spear with sharp canines.

They were found by Harlow and Reese, they all sorta just fell for them.

Riley is a firecracker who has anger problems. They love water and are a swimmer. They only show their sweet side to their partners.

Riley is the biggest cuddle bug of them all and none of their partners mind it at all.

Riley has long hair that they allow their partners to play with.

Riley was only an inch shorter than Harlow at 9'0".

They're spicy and can actually kill KQ if they tried hard enough.

Riley can turn into a spear, just like the other two weapons.

Riley is often the one to pick up Ivy when requested.

Riley has a dainty feminine figure. They're very tall and give in to more feminine things.

Riley's pronouns are they/she. Mostly prefer they/them though.

Riley has a dark and smooth voice with feminine undertones.

Riley is a tsundere. Point blank.

They will not hesitate to attack first, ask questions later.

Most people are scared of Riley.

Riley wears a crop top with leggings. They've got a lot of white and purple clothing.

They have magic.

They turn into a mermaid when they're submerged in water. (Aka. Splashing/dumping water on them won't turn them into a mermaid.)

They don't take kindly to being flirted with, so if you want to escape with your tongue, don't flirt.

They have no real relation to their neighbors, but are friends with Glass and Rof.

Leo and Autumn adore them and often is seen near them. It's probably because they have a mermaid form.

They have a thing with cats.

They are very angry at times. Only their partners can calm them.

[tacticalvisor76]

Poly Reaper76 and their first holiday season [back] together?

a/n: here you go, sweetie, sorry for the delay in getting this out. i ended the request on a bit of a hopeful note so i hope that’s okay!! 

It’s difficult. You could feel the tension in the air, and at the drop of a hat it could all just come back and bite all three of you in the ass. But Jack and Gabe are tired, you’re tired, and despite everything all three of you are trying. 

Trying being the keyword, and mostly end up frustrated with the other making you want to tear your hair out. 

It’s a rough start, what with getting the three of you into the same home. The same room, or even an arm's length near one another. 

Talks of the old happy days make all of you upset, closing yourself off to go and do something else. Wishing that you could all just get along for a few minutes to do something other than just look so sad at what the other has become and what happened in the past. 

All three of you note how much colder the separate beds feel when the other’s you’d share it with are so close, yet so far away. None of you are able to get a restful nights sleep. 

Not a single one of you will admit that you couldn’t sleep because the beds felt cold and that you missed having the other in the same bed with you. You all just played it off as something else and set about doing whatever was planned for today. 

Outings are a little bit nicer, biting tones switched out for something softer, more closer to heart that brings a small to your faces. 

Standing there, bags in their hands, banter and words not near as sharp and hateful as usual. You smiled, maybe just maybe everything can work out. This could work out between all three of you again. 

[polyamproud]

Let’s be holding ourselves accountable. You and your partners deserve a realistic expectation of what your relationship can look like.

Checking in with yourself and your partners consistently also means if your physical/mental/emotional availability change for any reason, your relationship can adjust to accommodate your new needs.

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[Image Description: A set of 4 square images. All text is in lowercase letters.

Image 1: An image with a black background. At the bottom right corner, and taking up roughly 1/4th of the image, are the outlines of pink puzzle pieces. Most of the puzzle pieces are put together but two of them are seperated from the rest. All the text in the image is left-aligned. At the top of the image is small pink text which reads “quick polyamory self check-in:” Beneath it is big, bold white text which reads “what space do i”, followed by text highlighted in pink which reads “realistically”, followed by more text which reads “have to offer to others right now.” At the bottom left is the “@polyamproud” watermark in gray. Beside the watermark is the polycule symbol in gray.

Image 2: An image with a black background and a pattern of dark gray polycule symbols. All the text in the image is bold and left-aligned, excluding the watermark. At the top of the image is big pink text which reads “be honest with your partners. and yourself.” Beneath it at the left side of the image is a thin, vertical pink line. To the right of it is white text which reads “polyamorous relationships require consistent check-ins about, and communication of, what space we have for others. if we are not clear about what we can or are willing to offer, our partners are uninformed about the relationship they’re consenting to.” At the bottom center of the image is the “@polyamproud” watermark in gray. Beside the watermark is the polycule symbol in gray.

Image 3: The image is split into half. The left side is pink and the right side is white. All the text in the image is centered. The pink side has bold white text at the top of it which reads “for current partners, this may look like”. To the left of the text is a curved arrow pointing down towards a list of five examples. Each example is in black text and seperated with a small white heart from the next example. The first example reads “how much you are looking to explore other relationships.”  The second example reads “what boundaries you are willing to honor.” The third example reads “shifts in dynamics and future goals and plans.” The fourth example reads “realistic time and energy needs and expenditure.” The fifth example reads “things you are unsure about, or discussions you would like to leave open.” The white side has bold pink text at the bottom of it which reads “for newer interests or partners this may look like”. To the right of the text is a curved arrow pointing up towards a list of five examples. Each example is in black text and seperated with a small pink heart from the next example. The first example reads “disclosure of boundaries or commitments to other partners.” The second example reads “realistic time and energy expenditure.” The third example reads “level of seriousness or commitment in current relationships.” The fourth example reads “level of commitment you can give to new relationships.” The fifth example reads “things you are unsure about, or discussions you would like to leave open.”   At the bottom right is the “@polyamproud” watermark in gray. Beside the watermark is the polycule symbol in gray.

Image 4: An image with a black background with a big, simplistic gray clock at the right half of the image, which is partially cut off. All the text is in lowercase letters and bold, excluding the watermark. At the top of the image is pink text which reads “we would all love to have boundless time and space for others.” Beneath it, at the left side of the image, is a short thin, horizontal pink line. Beneath the line is white text which reads “time, energy, and boundaries require balancing expectations. by offering realistic perspectives of what we can give to others, we offer the people in our lives the opportunity to make an informed decision about their relationship with you.”  At the bottom center of the image is the “@polyamproud” watermark in gray. Beside the watermark is the polycule symbol in gray.

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[polyamproud]

Prioritize your comfort. You do not owe a partner access to anything simply because of another partner’s access.

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[Image Description: A single square image with a white background. All text is in lowercase letters and left-aligned. Pink text highlighted in black reads “gentle polyam affirmation: ”, followed by black text which reads “you are absolutely allowed to have different boundaries with different partners.” In the bottom right corner is a short, thin black line for aesthetic purposes. Beneath the line is the “@polyamproud” watermark in black. Beside the watermark is the polycule symbol in black. 

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[polyamproud]

Loving reminder that you’re doing your best. And that your best is enough. ♡ Despite the repeated messaging we receive that “polyamory is just the easy way out of commitment,” we as non-monogamists know that is absolutely not the case. Relationships are hard work, and that does not change as you bring more loving relationships into your life. Some days, finding the right balance of energy for yourself and each of your partners comes easier than others. 🌿 Ask yourself: is your partner punishing you for a ‘mistake,’ or are you punishing yourself? Who benefits from you punishing yourself? What can you do today to show yourself the same empathy you would show your partners? Take a breath. It’s all going to be okay.

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[Image Description: A single square image. All text is in lowercase letters and in bold, excluding the “@polyamproud” watermark. The background is white with gray polycule symbols in a repeating pattern. At the top of the image is big, left-aligned white text which reads “there’s no such thing as a perfect partner.” Beneath it is a line graph with 6 different pink points throughout the graph all at varying high and low points with a pink line running from point to point. Each point has the same white text written by it which reads “your best”. Beneath the graph is centered white text which reads “your best will look different each day & in each of your relationships.” Followed by pink text which reads “you’re not perfect. and that’s okay.” At the bottom right corner is the “@polyamproud” watermark with the polycule symbol beside it. Both are in pink and at a lower opacity.

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[polyamproud]

We were feeling a bit burnt out on “polyamory is NOT [fill in the blank.]” Here’s what it IS and why we love it! ~image description below~

[Image Description: A set of 5 images. The first is enlarged above the others, which are smaller and placed beside each other in pairs. All text is in lowercase letters.

Image 1: A single square image with a white background. Big black left-aligned text reads “what we love about “, followed by slightly bigger, bold text highlighted in pink which reads “non-monogamy.” Beneath the big text is smaller left-aligned black text which reads “too often, polyamory and non-monogamy are defined and described via negativa—explaining what they”, followed by “are” in italics, then “by explaining what they’re”, followed by “not.” in italics. In the bottom left corner, smaller, right-aligned text reads “here’s”, followed by “what non-monogamy” highlighted in pink, then “is” highlighted in pink and in italics, then “to us.” Beneath the right-aligned text is a shorter, thin black arrow pointing right. There is a pink right-angled triangle in the corner of the bottom right, with a pink strip slightly above it, separated by a small space; this is all for aesthetic purposes. Centered at the very bottom is the “@polyamproud” watermark in pink. Beside the watermark is the polycule symbol in pink.

Image 2: A single square image with a black background. Big white left-aligned  text reads “non-monogamy is”, followed by slightly bigger, bold text highlighted in pink which reads “fulfilling.” Beneath the big text is smaller left-aligned white text which reads “an ethically non-monogamous relationship format offers an unique opportunity for emotional growth and spiritual fulfillment.” Beneath the text is a left-aligned small pink heart. There is a pink right-angled triangle in the corner of the bottom right, with a pink strip slightly above it, separated by a small space; this is all for aesthetic purposes. On the pink triangle is the polycule symbol in black. Beneath the polycule is white text which reads “2/5”, indicating the image number. Centered at the very bottom is the “@polyamproud” watermark in pink.

Image 3: A single square image with a black background. Big white left-aligned text reads “non-monogamy is”, followed by slightly bigger, bold text highlighted in pink which reads “fun.” Beneath the big text is smaller left-aligned white text which reads “polyamorous people pursue relationships for the same reasons anyone does: they're exciting and joyful. they make us happy.” Beneath the text is a left-aligned small pink heart. There is a pink right triangle in the corner of the bottom right, with a pink strip slightly above it, separated by a small space; this is all for aesthetic purposes. On the pink triangle is the polycule symbol in black. Beneath the polycule is white text which reads “3/5”, indicating the image number. Centered at the very bottom is the “@polyamproud” watermark in pink.

Image 4: A single square image with a black background. Big white left-aligned  text reads “non-monogamy is”, followed by slightly bigger, bold text highlighted in pink which reads “challenging.” Beneath the big text is smaller left-aligned white text which reads “non-monogamy engages us with the challenge of unlearning the mono-normative approach so many of us grew up with, and reframing the way we relate in our intimate partnerships.” Beneath the text is a left-aligned small pink heart. There is a pink right-angled triangle in the corner of the bottom right, with a pink strip slightly above it, separated by a small space; this is all for aesthetic purposes. On the pink triangle is the polycule symbol in black. Beneath the polycule is white text which reads “4/5”, indicating the image number. Centered at the very bottom is the “@polyamproud” watermark in pink.

Image 5: A single square image with a black background. Big white left-aligned text left-aligned reads “non-monogamy is”, followed by slightly bigger, bold text highlighted in pink which reads “empowering.” Beneath the big text is smaller left-aligned white text which reads “enm and polyamory encourage us to access our autonomy, face our struggles head-on, and live freely and honestly - with ourselves and with others.” Beneath the text is a left-aligned small pink heart. There is a pink right-angled triangle in the corner of the bottom right, with a pink strip slightly above it, separated by a small space; this is all for aesthetic purposes. On the pink triangle is the polycule symbol in black. Beneath the polycule is white text which reads “5/5”, indicating the image number. Centered at the very bottom is the “@polyamproud” watermark in pink.

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