May 3
Being a switch and being polyamorous really does mean I’m dominant with one partner and submissive with the other.
And I’m now convinced if they meet they won’t even believe they’re with the same person.
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Being a switch and being polyamorous really does mean I’m dominant with one partner and submissive with the other.
And I’m now convinced if they meet they won’t even believe they’re with the same person.
What's a stupid definition of misogyny?
I'm guessing you meant 'monogamy', due to my last post. Not that there probably aren't also stupid definitions of misogyny, but I'm not discoursing on that right now or in the foreseeable future.
To me, when the characters seem to be treating monogamy as a hard rule of the universe they have to follow, no matter their feelings, it's a huge squick. Like love being treated like it's pie and it's finite and you can only give it to one person or it's not REALLY [romantic] love. It turns monogamy into a box with a lock. :(
For example: Sam preparing to jump in the cage and telling Dean to go to Lisa, and Dean treating that with a sort of outrage that he'd be cheating. Not "feel like cheating" but "would be cheating." The simple difference in connotation is like getting punched in the uvula.
Or when people write love triangles, etc., centering the ideal of monogamy and marriage like it's the obvious goal for everyone and that's the only way to "settle down" and everyone else has to pair off and/or go their separate ways. (Just had a flashback to the sisters moving out of the house on Charmed cuz Piper got married🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃 Also bad feelings about marriage storylines in Bones.)
Treating consensually open/poly relationships as cheating or not serious or in some way inferior and unfulfilling; treating it like they HAVE to "grow up" and choose.
And in a related subject: Treating virginity and only sleeping with your One True Love as the ultimate love story. Urk
I see a lot of ppl saying things like "poly people just 'collect partners' like stamps", but dammit, it isn't true. And we know, a monogamous relationship is def not to controlling and trying to own your partner, in fact. And it's so different to have an open/polyamorous relationship or a polygamous relationship.
We can be poly having a monogamous relationship, and have true love for other ppl without having any other kind of relationship with them.
Be a poly ppl are more complex than resume us into "stamp collectors", exists many ways to relate to people without needing or intending to be in a romantic relationship, and this can be different for each person, or for each type of agreement established in the relationship.
Without the need to have sex, or any kind of physical contact, it can be just platonic, how much you know and are intimate with the person, even without the 'need for deep feelings'.. Being demisexual, polisexual, asexual, etc. It's not because a person is polyamorous, that they will be dishonest, or unfaithful.
Not necessarily a polyamorous person will have a relationship with several people, or have an open relationship, but it is not because that person has feelings for others, that he collects stamps lmaoo.. This relationship, or this relationship intention, may have different motivations for happening.
Polyamorous people are as complex, unique, and beautiful as the stars, and the constellations of our relationships are too! It is so frustrating to encounter close-minded attitudes about what someone who's polyamorous must "really" want or how relationships have to look to be valuable.
Our goal for this blog is a safe space for celebrating all kinds of multipartner relationships!
sudden craving to hoard
like
partner systems
we only have one and love the dearly but
the urge to just collect more
Getting a new partner is all fun and games until I’m singing her favorite songs, and suddenly I realize I haven’t listened to my own playlists in a week.
Sometimes I just want be showered with love and attention from multiple people and be able to do the same to them 💕
Damn. Long fic ruined in the first 3 minutes by hitting my stupid-definitions-of-monogamy squick. 😔
I managed to get Valentine's presents for both my baes! What a miracle!
Still, I hope they like them.