#praiseworthy

[heartsings77]

[livinglifeagainblog]

Verse of the Day: Philippians 4:8

"Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is another praiseworthy-meditate on these things."

[pianostrings]

'So you ask me is this what a man gets? This was the question. A holding pattern of things planted square in the head, instead of thinking general, such as whether there was remotely a hopeful possibility of a great morning-haze lifting, and thinking luxury, hoping something was in the fridge for breakfast.'

- Praiseworthy, Alexis Wright

[dailyenglishvoca]

Today's song is Praiseworthy by ReduxReSET featuring the Voisona voicebank Chis-A, the Synthesizer V voicebank Stardust, and the Vocaloid Maika

Content warning: potentially disturbing imagery (closeups of eyes, teeth), themes of obsession and perfectionism, Christian motifs

[mybeautifulchristianjourney]

Think on These Things

Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. — Philippians 4:8 | New King James Version (NKJV) The Holy Bible; New King James Version®. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson. All rights reserved. Cross References: Romans 14:18; 1 Peter 2:12

[wiirocku]

Philippians 4:8 (NIV) - Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

[questions-for-christians]

Share something praiseworthy, pure, or uplifting that happened in connection with your faith or religious community.

[yoga-onion]

-People who cannot express themselves-

By Taizo Kato

I have read and am overly impressed by a book of the Japanese sociologist and psychologist, who is an associate of research at Harvard University, Reischauer Institute. I herewith introduce some parts of his book:

(1) Restoring own awareness

What shy people need, is to change their self-awareness.

Obviously, some mature people have a healthy mind. Therefore, they are successful and rewarding to society.

There is nothing wrong with praising them. Certainly, they deserve it.

However, the aforementioned group has probably had a person who they were able to trust, since birth. They were able to grow up with a mentally stable and loving mother, who could protect them.

Unfortunately, shy people’s mothers were not as loving. They have had a mother that constantly criticised her children and would never be satisfied by their effort. This kind of mother would blame them for every tiny mistake.

Despite the fact that shy people have been surrounded by bullies, they have had to survive, all alone. Try & imagine how hard this would be? That is already a more courageous way to live.  

Shy people have been exposed to criticism by others, since they were born. And they’ve grown up being brainwashed to think they were useless. So, they were never able to believe in their strength, as they became independent. It’s all about self-blame and worthlessness.

They need to rely on others to survive, but they have nobody to depend on. No wonder they become so self obsessed.

Therefore, the shy people need to reveal that they are a difficult person. Even so, they deserve admiration, and they are praiseworthy.

Fundamental human quality is not only about their social status. There are so many people who have real human quality but have no such social status. Vice versa, there are so many people who have such a high standard of social status but are lacking in real human quality.

言いたいことが

言えない人

加藤諦三著

日本の社会学者、心理学者、またハーヴァード大学ライシャワー研究所アソシエイトの本を読み、大変感動しました。ここに一部をご紹介いたします:

①自分のイメージをつくりなおす

　恥ずかしがり屋の人に必要なことは、自分についてのイメージを変えることである。

　確かに世の中には成熟した人がいる。心理的に健康な人がいる。自己実現している人がいる。社会に貢献している人がいる。

　それらの人を賞賛するのはよい。たしかに立派な人たちである。

　しかし、それらの人は小さいころ信じる人がいた。母性的保護を得て成長した。子どもの研究家として名高いボールビーの言葉を使えば、愛着人物の有効性を信じて成長した。

　恥ずかしがり屋の人の母親は、残念ながら母なるものを持った母親ではなかった。弱点を責めることはあっても、努力を認める人ではなかった。

　恥ずかしがり屋の人の周りには、責める人しかいなかった。それでも恥ずかしがり屋の人は今日まで反社会的になることなく生きてきたのである。

　それは十分、賞賛に値することなのである。

　小さい頃から批判にさらされて生きてきた。そして自分はダメな人間であると思い込まされて成長した。だから人に頼らなければ生きていけない弱い人間だと思って生きてきた。

　これは、自己無価値感妄想である。

　人に頼らなければ生きていけない弱い人間なのに、周囲に頼れる人がいない。困った時に助けてくれる人がいない。

　そうした人間環境の中で生きてくれば自己執着が強くなる。助けてくれる人がいないのだから、自分で自分を助けなければならない。

　母性的保護がなくて助けてくれる人がいない人間環境の中で成長すれば、自己執着が強くなるのは、雨が空から降ってくるのと同じように自然なことである。

　恥ずかしがり屋の人はいま、自分が自己執着の強い嫌な人間であることを認めることである。しかしそれにもかかわらず「自分は自己賞賛に値する」と信じてよい。

　人間の価値は社会的価値だけで決まるものではない。社会的に価値がなくても、人間として価値のある人はたくさんいる。逆に社会的に価値があっても、人間として価値のない人もたくさんいる。