#problems in general

[reikodashi]

did the beginner mistake of not warming up before belting and now my throat is starting to act up a few days before the actual thing! great going i guess!!

[ashtonisrottting]

i don't know how to explain it... my dad came with an anger that all fathers seem to have; my mom came with a bitterful opinion over feelings and honesty...

i can't tell exactly where we're wrecked, all i know is that something oddly normal is deadly twisted

[jino-stuff]

Sometimes I'm really surprised 'bout how little aware my dad is about my life... through all my life... I mean, he didn't even know I have adhd and I was diagnosed when I was still living with him...

[panthera-tigris-venenata]

I've cleaned out my internet browser a bit ago, and, well, anyway, here is a list of my currently opened tabs:

Four different AO3 stories

Descendants Wiki

Thesaurus

The website of university I want to go on

Search: The Ides of March

Search: polymerisation of isoprene

Victorian flower language

I feel like that says a lot.

[scribbles-by-kate]

Tumblr interaction and entitlement

Recently, I didn’t reply to someone who had messaged me on Tumblr and this person reacted by blocking me, so that when I found time to answer the message, I had typed up my reply, and, obviously, couldn’t send it. I thought, well, that’s kind of a petty response to someone not answering right away (never mind that it would be sometimes days or weeks before I answer people’s messages on other forums, and they would be cool with it). I thought about this, and I thought about mentioning it, and the reason I’ve decided to talk about it is because it goes back to perceptions about interaction with others that we all need to be mindful of.

If someone sends me a message that I don’t answer right away or don’t answer at all it’s because:

I’m busy - I have a life that’s not Tumblr and that takes precedence.

I’m thinking of what to say - I sometimes need to do that. Thoughts aren’t always completely formed in my head, and I don’t write without thinking.

I’m not emotionally capable of responding - I’m upset about the thing you’re asking me about or I’m processing, so I can’t talk right now.

I don’t want to talk - everyone should be allowed to be silent if they feel like it.

I don’t have any more to say - if all I’m going to do is repeat myself, or if the conversation has come to a natural end, then I’m not going to say any more.

Tumblr got hungry and ate your message - which means I didn’t get it, which means I obviously couldn’t reply.

But, what all this really comes down to is this: no one is entitled to my attention. Message me by all means, but no one has an automatic right to my time or my emotional reassurance, even if I’ve provided it before. I’m a nice person: I like to talk to people and be reassuring and positive, but I am not a bottomless well of understanding and reassurance. I’m someone who needs time to process my own feelings and replenish my own stock of positivity, particularly when I’m upset about something. We are all entitled to make ourselves available to anyone or no one as we see fit.

So, anyone who feels like they’re entitled to my time or yours, and who gets petty or upset when they don’t get it, is not someone I or you need in our lives anyway. Respect yourself and your emotions and your time, and forget about anyone who can’t accept that.

[bicth-and-in-that-order]

I'm just tired of fandoms in general ignoring literally every other charatcer, especially prominent female characters in order to fetishizes over two ugly white boys. I mean, god damn, people rather ship incestous and pedophilic yaoi over even glancing at the female characters. I don't want to say it's because tumblr fandoms are predominately occupied by straight girls, but , come on, if tumblr fandoms were predominately occupied by straight males we'd basically be getting hentai all the time. Duality of man, right? So what's it take to get some good fucking content for female characters?

[i-am-not-at-home]

Me trying to get everyone excited about the 14549849282848th project that I started but never going to finish

[high-5-the-sky]

Got some good ideas in my head

...If only I would actually draw them...