#pronounds

[vintricles]

can i just say that pronouns, gender identity, gender expression, and sex are all different, separate things and should not be regarded as one concept

[turquoisekim]

power move: missgendering cis people because you don't agree with them

[bnteen]

15 Authors Discuss Journalism, Gender Pronouns, and More in January's YA Open Mic

YA Open Mic is a monthly series in which YA authors share personal stories on topics of their choice. The aim of the series is to peel away the formality of bios and offer authors a platform to talk about something readers won’t necessarily find on their websites. This month, eight authors discus

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[coolclaytony]

A thing I'm learning to appreciate about my niblings is how arbitrarily they use pronouns. He/She/They/It, those words may as well mean the same thing to them, it's both annoying and delightful!

[itzmoth]

listen he/him lesbians, i may not fully understand, but y’all are valid in all ways possible and anyone who says ur not is wrong

[transqueerquestions]

hi. i think i'm a trans male. i don't have body dysphoria though. i want people out in public to look at me and say "hello sir" not "hello ma'am". i want people to view me as male and use he/him pronouns. but i don't want to change how i look. i don't want to bind, but if i don't people will view me as female. in short, im really confused. help?

Tobi: Gender identity is something really difficult to wrestle with and I commend you for coming to find help and reassurance. I can’t tell you whether or not you’re a trans male, but I can tell you that wanting to be referred to with “male” pronouns, usually indicates that you could be. Gender dysphoria isn’t a requirement for being trans either, so the fact that you don’t have any doesn’t mean you can’t be trans.

Gender identity is also separate from gender expression as well, so how you choose to portray yourself to society based on society’s expectations for “male and female” also doesn’t affect what you identify as. Sure, it’s difficult as all hell to not get the pronouns you prefer from strangers, but what helps me is knowing I can turn to my friends that accept me as I am and respect my pronouns. That, and I just have to remember that what people who don’t know me outwardly see and assume, isn’t me. Does that make sense?

Hope this helps, have a wonderful day, and please don’t be afraid to ask for any follow up questions!