#pushover

[gatabella]

Kim Novak by Robert Coburn, Pushover, 1954

[babybatbabbled]

PUSHOVER — SYSTEM ROLE

Pushover — a system role where one is a pushover. This alter may let others push their boundaries, not speak up when things are wrong, or just hold the freeze/fawn response. This can be due to disorders such as anxiety or DPD, but are not required to use this term.

Coiners note ; coined for headmate, colors inspired by xem

[silverscreen-andfashion]

Actress Kim Novak, 1954

Promo photo for Pushover

[jhessboard]

this guy literally grabbed my hand and placed it on his chest in the middle of our lecture, cause his heart was ‘racing’ because he said he was nervous, after i already tried to redirect the conversation, because i didn’t want to touch his chest! but because i’m so bad at setting boundaries i literally just let him grab my hand and force it there as i froze up

[almostlookedhuman]

Pushover (1954, dir. Richard Quine)

[movie-gifs]

Kim Novak as Lona McLane in Pushover (1954) dir. Richard Quine

[missworld28]

I need to learn the art of being a bitch

[gravedaisies]

I dunno if you noticed but I don’t like the idea of Mal giving decisions of Auradon when Ben is literally there. And I found it odd how people in Auradon and isle praising Mal as some sort of savior when she literally released criminals back into Auradon to set revenge on their enemies. All of this should have been Ben’s doing, not Mal’s as Ben would know what to do as Mal was still a foreigner and is getting warmed up to the country.

See, Ben/Mal paring I never thought of it lasting because Mal genuinely doesn't seem the type to WANT or enjoy being a queen which is what she will need to be with Ben.

I do find it odd that Auradon isn't judging her more harshly but that's probably Ben hiding some criticism from her after D2.

Ben definitely needed the Vks perspective but he probably could have done more in making it easier from the Auradon side.

I always thought, the little kids view mal as this hero versus the older kids like Uma ECT who view her differently.

Ben is too much of a pushover for Mal sometimes especially in D3. This boy needs to stand up to her, his advisors and his daddy.

Again, I don't think Mal has learned/Integrated enough into Auradon to have making the decisions she did. Especially after D2, she seemed to be in an insecurity spiral especially with Ben and her friends who have arguably integrated much better. Which is perfectly normal but she hasn't found a space like the other 3 did. Fashion for Evie, that sport for Jay and I think Carlos has lots going on between Jane, his dog, tech and that sport. Mal has art but I don't think she's found that space in Auradon. She definitely seems more put together in D3 but still has major issues.

I understand Mals position, I simply don't think she's the least ready for it. Ben definitely should have asked each Vk for their opinions on how to take more Vks to Auradon instead of just one. The whole situation could have been handled better.