"why can't they just be best friends?" And they are the queerest people to be in love ever
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"why can't they just be best friends?" And they are the queerest people to be in love ever
I get self conscious about my online presence sometimes but then I remember I could be somebody’s favorite little fujoshi and better yet somebody has potentially nerded out or like… fujoed out due to my posts…. and that’s I believe worth being present on the internet for
i am so obsessed with the way dbda handles queerness. i can't really explain it in words, but it feels so...loving? and intentional? it shows you queer happiness while not shying around the topic of homophobia, it reuses tropes but gives a new, mindful spin on them. i do feel like it was made for queer people.
There seems to be this weird reaction to trans headcanons that no matter if its fem or masc, no one is happy
You cant headcanon a masculine man as a trans man bcs it "doesnt make sense"
You cant headcanon a feminine man as a trans man because "you're steorotyping"
You cant headcanon a gnc man as a trans man because "no trans man would dress like that you fetishizer"
You cant headcanon a masculine man as a trans woman because "that's completely out of character"
You cant headcanon a feminine man as trans woman because "you only headcanon that because he wears (typically feminine thing)"
You cant headcanon a gnc man as a trans woman because "just because he likes certain clothes doesnt make him trans"
You cant headcanon a masculine woman as a trans man because "you're a misogynistic fetishizer"
You cant headcanon a feminine woman as a trans man because "its making stuff up" or again "you're a fetishizer"
You cant headcanon a gnc woman as a trans man because "you're enforcing gender steorotypes"
You cant headcanon a masculine woman as a trans woman because "you're a misogynist transphobe"
You cant headcanon a feminine woman as a trans woman because "she doesnt seem trans"
You cant headcanon a gnc woman as a trans woman because "trans women dont like being masculine"
You cant draw pre-op bodies because "its too sexual", "its transphobic to show that", or "you're fetishizing trans bodies"
Can't draw post-op because "they look funny" or "that doesnt make sense"
This isnt even getting into Nonbinary or Genderfluid headcanons, or even headcanons that dare to be complex. Or trans headcanons that involve stuff trans people "shouldnt do" like a trans man deciding to have kids or a trans woman doing literally anything with her private parts.
Half the time any existence of said headcanon is demeaned as tarnishing a precious cis character or is virtue signaled in a "woke" way such as things listed before or calling a trans character in a queer ship "heteronormative" or "straight-ifing"
God forbid you yourself are a trans man or trans woman making these headcanons, ESPECIALLY if its to connect to a character.
I feel like its a mix of throwing around buzzwords or just not scrolling if they dislike something. If you're not being a dick about your hc why gaf.
Long rant but I'm sick of this stuff in fandom when it comes to trans headcanons
people: why does everyone act like ao3 is for queer people???
because for a very long time queer people looked at mainstream media, saw the crumbs they were being offered, and said "fine, i'll do it myself."
fanfiction became one of the few places where queer stories could exist in abundance instead of as a side plot, a joke, a tragedy, or a character who mysteriously disappeared after one season.
ao3 isn't a queer-only website. anyone can use it. but it was built out of fandom spaces that were heavily shaped by queer creators and readers, so of course that influence is everywhere.
it's not that ao3 belongs only to queer people.
it's that queer people helped build the house, decorated half the rooms, and have been hosting the party for years.
I'm really tired of the people that feel the need to run pr for hetships; in the past they'd just go THEY'RE NOT GAY be homophobic then move on it wasn't so much a persistent ship war it used to be widely understood that you try not to mix surface level canon fandom w queer shipping fandom. The two corners surely wanted nothing to do with each other and tried to keep it that way.
telling queer shippers their ships aren't canon is like telling kids santa claus isn't real they alr know on some level shut up? 😭 fandom was built on delusion and making fun of authors for not understanding their characters were obviously gay and in love. Next you're going to tell me Spock and Kirk never kissed.
I think just because now there's been more mainstream rep than there was when I was young people shipping het ships think it's fair to have ship wars with queer ships... guys... it's not. Heteros still have a million times more rep than queer ships. Queer people can still not expect to see themselves in 90% of the mainstream media they engage with. So many people will say they're queer but not understand the place of privilege shipping a het ship and I really don't get it. It's very rude and tone deaf.
A common criticism I also often see is "consume actual queer media" when people are fans of non-canon ships (with people trying to claim non-canon ships are "queerslop" now despite that fandom was built on non-canon ships). This criticism is also something so tone deaf that I don't understand how queer people spout it.
Idk about you, but my queerness never turns off. Everything I engage with I engage with it in a queer way, it is always filtered through my perspective as a queer person, I always pick up on subtle cues of queerness in a narrative. This is how most lgbt+ are wired which is how queerbaiting can be a thing at all. Maybe it's because I grew up in different times, but you get used to reading between the lines because that was once the only place we were allowed to exist. And you claim characters as queer in everything you watch because you know queer people are always present in reality even if a show is written like they're not.
Telling queer people they're not allowed to engage with the media they consume in a queer way is odd, telling them it's only ok when the queerness is canon is trying to restrict a queer expression/perspective & a queer audience to a containment zone.
You're telling queer people to not get their gay cooties on everything. It's weird and you need to pause and really think about the full context of the things you say before you criticize a queer ship/queer shippers especially if it's for the sake of a cishet ship. I think we've let the concept of "checking your privilege" fall to the wayside too much because yeah, check your privilege.
I want to celebrate the Doctor Who finale featuring a canonically queer Doctor the day before Pride month—SO HERE, HAVE SOME QUEER TARDIS STICKERS!
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