Sometimes the response to queer community gatekeeping and exclusionism is just “that’s not your business or your choice and you’re being rude right now.”
“Everyone needs to state whether they’re tme or tma” not your business whether someone has a penis or a vagina (which is the real question here when you break it down).*
(*when it is used in a reductive context and not as a lens for discussing systems of oppression - see reblogs for more information)
“Bi lesbians aren’t real” not your choice how someone identifies and what words they use.
“Weird kinky queers are making us look bad” you’re being rude by attempting to excluding queer people from their own communities and blaming them for other people’s bigotry.
“I don’t want to use your neopronouns or put effort into understanding them” not your choice what pronouns someone uses And you’re being rude by not using them.
“Women and nonbinary people* *so long as you don’t look too much like a man, medically transition in ‘masculine’ ways or use he/him pronouns” not your business what a nonbinary person or a woman looks like And you’re being rude by trying to police this.
The problems people make up and the rules they try to enforce aren’t nearly as real or as serious as the actual problems the queer community faces. Problems that are only surmountable if we stick together.
I don’t want to be doom and gloom but there are places in the world that can legally kill me for existing as a queer person. Plenty more where they could do it illegally with no repercussions. Trans healthcare is being restricted if not outright banned (and the difficulty in accessing it even when it is available is violence enough). Queer discrimination is permissible under the guise of religious protection laws. People get assaulted in the streets and harassed by cops.
This is what we’re fighting against. This is what we need to stand together for.
