#queer rant

[eldritchlani]

Having parents that are good parents but aren't accepting of lgbtq stuff is weird because like, why am I grieving you while you're still alive. I'm going out doing stuff with you guys as a family that I would usually want to avoid because 'welp, when they find out, this is never gonna happen again.'

Like I just went fishing with my dad today. I have never wanted to go fishing before, until earlier when I realized that when they inevitably find out about the gay stuff, I'm never gonna have the chance to do it.

Every time I'm having a good time with them, I'm happy. I can pretend for a minute that everything is gonna be fine and dandy forever. But there's always this pit in my stomach knowing that it's not really gonna last.

And I know it goes without saying, but it really fucking hurts.

All I want is to stay close with you, to go out to dinner, to joke around, to help with the yard work, to show you my art, to visit on the holidays, and spend birthdays with you, but it's not gonna happen.

[beeari]

I hate it when I see ship content related to lotf that has nothing to do with sexual content or anything yet someone comments "they are 12 year olds".

because it pushes the harmful stereotype that being gay is inherently sexual, that same sex relationships are not based on love and mutual care but purely on lust.

Also you don't hit a certain age and suddenly you turn queer, it is something you discover overtime and it's different for every person.

Another thing is that queer people have existed for as long as humanity has existed. Just because it was the 50s and homophobia was rampant does not mean homosexual people didn't exist, it just means they had to hide. But having to keep their sexual preferences from public eyes doesn't make an individual less queer.

What pisses me off the most is that if one of them was a girl no one would bat an eye.

[everettiguess]

We don’t talk enough about how people(especially straight men) see others’ sexualities as some sort of obstacle to overcome if they wanna date them.

They aren’t “playing hard to get”, they’re not playing the game at all! You can’t “change their mind”, that’s a fundamental part of who they are.

People aren’t a romantic prize to be won. Yeah it’s probably embarrassing to like someone who really just can’t like you back, BUT GET OVER IT. THERE’S PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEA. LIFE AND HUMAN CONNECTION AREN’T A VIDEO GAME WHERE YOU GOTTA GET ALL THE ACHIEVEMENTS AND ROMANCE ALL THE NPCS.

[wiresandmetalhands01]

not to be evil woke or anything but i am so tired of cishet/cisqueer people giving transmascs terrible representation and expecting them to be happy they have ANY representation when yk damn well they just want to pat themselves on the back for their performative wokeness or barely hide their disdain for transmascs by implying they're "too sensitive" for not sucking them off for their bigoted wet dream caricature of them

i am so tired of a lot of transmasc representation just being "white teenager who uses ace bandages to cover her- i mean HIS his bewbies and is allergic to happiness 🥺🥺", a fetishized femboy or a character that gets like 2 minutes of screentime with 0 plot significance

and this is just a pet peeve for me but i HATE transmasc characters that feel like they were written by theater kid millennials. I think you know exactly what I'm talking about. There's always that one transmasc character that the most annoying queer people you'll ever meet swear up and down is good rep but the character themself is so cringe you don't want your gender to be associated with them

AND I HATE IT WHEN TRFS JUMP US WHEN WE SHARE A SPACE IN THE TRANS COMMUNITY

LIKE OH MY GOD LET US HAVE SHITTT PLEASE

[surfspooky]

Nonsensical rant incoming, I've just seen a couple posts like this and it has been mildly pissing me off. I may have been successfully rage-baited.

We need to stop assuming peoples labels. I'm a heavy no label guy so I'm bias, but I always had people breathing down my neck assuming I'm gay just because I'm a feminine man. I am not gay, for the record, I don't use labels - but no REAL PERSON is required to tell you that.

Just because a man is not traditionally masculine does not mean that he is gay, or bisexual, or any fun label you want to place on him. Just because he is comfortable in his skin does not mean he is queer. He COULD be, but that is not up for you to decide - you don't get to dictate what a celebrities label or status is just by outwardly observing. That is up for the person to decide, and if they don't want to then they do not have to.

Leave people alone!! Is all I'm saying lol.. this is specifically about David Dastmalchian I've seen several people make comments assuming he's gay or bi just because of how he acts, or because he kisses his friends. This guy is a real person, he's not fictional, he's not a character for you to headcanon - he has a brain, a life, and a world completely outside of anything fans see. You don't know anything about anyone more than they know about themself.

If he uses labels and wants to comment on it, that's up to him, but he does not owe anybody that. He can just be himself, and that is perfectly fine. He does not need to be any specific thing to resonate heavily with people who see themselves in his work, or to connect with queer folks.. y'know?

Perhaps this is coming from a place of projection, as a non-conforming queer man who is not any label but that and had SO many placed on me just because of how I look or act.. it is very annoying, disheartening, and makes you feel disconnected from the community when everyone is so obsessed with shoving you into a box.

Be respectful to people please I beg - think about how it would make you feel for people to constantly speculate what your romantic preferences are when that has nothing to do with your work.

[bratattack1002]

just some things i wanna rant about

rant #1: caedsexuality, caedromanticism, etc.

Well I was trying to find labels that fit me as a neurodivergent and queer person. I knew I was ace-spec, but didn’t know exactly how I fit on it. And yeah, I knew I didn’t NEED labels or anything, but for some reason it made me less stressed about finding my identity. I could caedsexual and caedromantic and I was like, “ Shit, I think that’s me. “ But the thing about it is that when I explain it to my parents they think it’ll just go away when I heal. And that could be the case, but I’ve never really liked sex all that much. I may not always be caedsexual but I know I’ll always be on the a-spec.

Rant #2: the TikTokification of punk

holy shit this one makes me angry… So let me ask you something, what is punk? You might say it’s a fashion style or a music genre, but that’s not it. It’s a mindset and lifestyle. It’s not a fucking microtrend. TikTok’s algorithm of ‘ punks ‘ is fucking ridiculous. I’m not trying to gatekeep, I’m trying to inform. Punk is about D.I.Y.s, thrifting, using what you have——NOT FAST FASHION. Buying from capitalistic websites that sell ‘ punk items ‘ aren’t gonna make you punk. SHEIN, Temu, Wish, etc ISN’T PUNK. Also, are we gonna talk about how almost NONE of the people who consider themselves punk on the platform use punk music in their videos? It’s all fuckboy / e-boy shit that doesn’t even match the subculture. It’s watering down the authenticity and importance of punk and making it seem like nothing at all. And it’s tiring seeing an important subculture die out due to capitalism and microtrends.

Rant #3: Carrie 1976

In the book, Carrie is intentionally unattractive to society. She is chubby, not skinny. In the movie I think she’s stunning, they got one of the most beautiful actors at the time. And I mean, it’s sad that they thought they’d have to use an attractive actor for the movie to be liked. The reason they used pig’s blood out of any other animal is because they were comparing her to one, which doesn’t make sense in the movie when she’s skinny.

[perfectlydreamysunflower]

So there’s this trans woman i know, who keeps saying she wants to “turn every man into a woman” and “chop off their balls,” and like… girl, GIRL! What are you doing? Are you rehearsing for a slasher film audition in front of me? is this your villain origin monologue??

I get where it comes from, if you’ve lived your whole life being told your gender is wrong, your body is wrong, your existence is wrong; sometimes you cope by flipping the script. you take all that powerlessness and you invert it. Suddenly it’s “haha what if i had control over other people’s gender.” It’s edgy, it’s dark humour, it’s trauma cosplay. Psychologically, projection 101. Sociologically, it’s a way of imagining power when the world has denied you any.

But not everything that helps you survive internally should be unleashed on random people externally because when you start broadcasting “snip snip ball-chopping fantasy hour,” you’re not just doing catharsis, you’re reinforcing every nasty stereotype cis people already cling to, the “trans ppl want to convert us” narrative, the “they’re dangerous” narrative. You’re not flipping the script anymore, you’re handing the haters their script back, gift-wrapped.

Like, i respect your identity, i really do, but respecting your identity doesn’t mean i’m required to sit politely while you threaten my hypothetical balls. I can empathise with your pain and say “keep that bit off-stage", both can be true.

Maybe let’s not turn trauma into a performance at other people’s expense. Reclaim your power, absolutely, but don’t drag the rest of us into your improv show.