#caedromantic

[narc-rants]

PSA: You are still aspec even if your orientation is influenced by your mental disorders!

You are still asexual even if you have SA trauma!

You are still aroace even if you have schizoid PD!

You are still aromantic even if you have NPD!

You are still afamilial even if you have ASPD!

You are still aplatonic even if you are autistic!

The cause of your orientation does not make it any less valid

[wingedgambitpilgrim]

Songs explicitly about or relatable to being aromantic

"Never Been In Love" by Will Jay

"Aromantic Moodboard" by Max Lizanich

"Crush Culture" by Conan Gray

"i think i wanna be alone" by mazie

"Zero Feelings" by Zoe Clark

"Turning Out" by AJR

"Please Don't Say You Love Me" by Gabrielle Aplin

"Not A Love Song" by bülow

"I Am Not a Robot" by MARINA

Other songs with aro-positive vibes

"Sports" by Beach Bunny

"Driving Myself Home" by Rose Betts

"despair" by leo

"my ted talk" by mxmtoon

"Kissaphobic" by Make Out Monday

"Rose" by The Weeknd (can be interpreted as platonic)

"FRIENDS" by Marshmello and Anne-Marie

"Dance Floor Anthem (I Don't Wanna Be In Love)" by Good Charlotte

"I'll Be There" by Walk Off The Earth

"You're My Best Friend" by Queen

For my aro community 🖤🩶🤍💚

[tansypawz]

hey guys happy pride month

as you all may know, im caedosexual. if you dont know what that means basically i am asexual due to trauma [there are aro/aroace versions of this label]. im not ashamed of this identity, but you know what i AM ashamed of ? THE FLAGS. THEYRE SO ASS. IM SO SICK AND TIRED AND I MADE A NEW ONE [GREEN AND BLUE VARIANTS FOR CAEDROMANTIC AND CAEDAROACE FOLKS RESPECTIVELY]

the colors also have meaning !!!!!!!!!

dark red - trauma red - grief and anger and all the feelings that come with being Traumatized lighter red - properly processing trauma and acceptance of caedo identity [when i slowly realized i was caedosexual i felt ashamed because i was "feeding into" the stereotype that ace people are "broken" or wtv. but if your asexuality/aromanticism is caused by trauma thats totally valid !!] white - healing from said trauma shades of purple/green/blue - the vast ace / aro / aroace spectrums. encompasses sex/romance favorable, indifferent and repulsed individuals, and everything in between

i wish all those who identify with these labels a happy pride month, and a safe recovery from their trauma. youre not alone in this, and you will find people who love you for who you are, who will love you how you should be loved.

[saunteredvaguelydownwards67]

AROSPEC QUIZ | NOT MINE | CREDITS TO WakfuMeu6210

Saw this on Pinterst. Felt the need to share it.

Are you on the aromantic spectrum? (microlabels included!)

Hi! this is a quiz that could help you know if you're aromantic or in the aromantic spectrum(also with more specific terms)! QUIZZES ARE NEV

LINK IF YOU CAN'T SEE IT:

https://www.quotev.com/quiz/17149713/Are-you-on-the-aromantic-spectrum-microlabels-included

[this-is-arophobia]

i want to mention the caedromantics and the stigma they face [any caed/caedo label face stigma but this is the arophobia blog so ill focus on them]

the prefix caed- or caedo- in caedromantic indicates that the person was alloromantic at some point, but traumatic experiences resulted in the person developing aromanticism. while the traumatic experiences can [and usually do] involve unhealthy romantic relationships, any form of trauma can result in a caedo- identity

for some reason caedos are really frowned upon? because to allos its like "ohh you just havent found the right person yet!" or "just go to therapy, itll fix that!" as if there was something to fix but when interacting in queer spaces its all "you have to be BORN aromantic to count" and "youre pushing stereotypes of us!!!"

while i do understand that aspec identities are often chalked off as mental illness or the person being "broken", caedromantics arent trying to perpetuate any stereotypes. caedromantic people just. exist. and it doesnt make us any less aromantic as someone who was born aromantic, or someone who developed aromanticism overtime, or any type of aromantic out there. i was so afraid of coming to terms with the fact that my aromanricism stemmed from trauma because i thought i was "proving arophobes right", and i hated myself for it for almost a year.

a good friend of mine once said genuine experiences cant feed into stereotypes because people live and experience the world in unique ways, and it coincidentally aligning with a stereotype in some way is simply unfortunate. and its true. to any caedoromantics out there, the source of your lack of attraction doesnt make it any less respectable or 'valid' [i dont like using that word but im out of ideas]

so yeah. the exclusion and injustice caedromantics face is arophobia.

this is arophobia

saw this first hand once while looking up the terms to see what they were. sucks people cant just accept others experiences/ids

[eqho]

YOU ARE STILL ARO/ACE IF:

- you experience rare romantic attraction

- you experience rare sexual attraction

- you experience romantic/sexual attraction but do not desire a relationship

- you don't experience attraction but desire a relationship

- you feel tertiary attraction AND sexual/romantic attraction

- you used to be in relationships and had attraction, but don't anymore

- you have libido, enjoy sex, etc.

- you are completely repulsed

- your aro/ace identity/intensity fluctuates

- you don't know how to label yourself

- you don't want to label yourself

- you enjoy romantic/sexual content

- are aro/ace due to trauma

- are indifferent rather than repulsed

- you use multiple labels

- you feel romantic/sexual attraction, and fantasize about being with that person, but wouldn't actually date them or do things with them

- you are aro/ace but identify with another label off the aspec

- you crush on people, but it stops there and you don't wanna date!

- you fantasize about sex/romance, not just fictional but in real life, but once it's about to happen or it comes up, you don't actually want it

- desire a relationship but can't feel attraction

- can't differentiate between attractions

- can't differentiate between attractions due to being neurodivergent

- are on the aspec due to being neurodivergent

- you have 'contradictory' labels

- you feel non-tertiary attraction sometimes but don't use a label that describes that, just using plain old aro/ace instead! keeping it simple :3+<

- if you identity as aro/ace!!

Made this post bc of my aroace crisis and feeling kinda invalid/left out being grayromantic asexual but still experiencing rare romantic attraction (please ask for more to add to the list!)

THIS IS TO ALL MY ORCHIDROMANTICS/SEXUALS, GRAYROMANTIC/SEXUALS, CAEDROMANTIC/SEXUALS, APOTHIROMANTIC/SEXUALS, LITHROMANTIC/SEXUALS, MYRROMANTIC/SEXUALS, DESINOROMANTIC/SEXUALS, REQUISROMANTIC/SEXUAL, RECIPROMANTIC/SEXUAL, CUPIOROMANTIC/SEXUAL, ANGLED AROACES, IDEMROMANTIC/SEXUALS, NEBULAROMANTIC/SEXUALS, NOVIROMANTIC/SEXUALS, PLACIOROMANTIC/SEXUALS, FRAYROMANTIC/SEXUALS, DEMIROMANTIC/SEXUALS, ZINNIAROMANTIC/SEXUALS, ICULAROMANTIC/SEXUALS, AMIDS AND ANYONE ELSE WHO FEELS LEFT OUT.

AS AN ARO/ACE PERSON, IF YOU ARE ON THE SPECTRUM, STOP INVALIDATING PEOPLES' IDENTITIES. WE NEED ASPEC SOLIDARITY, NOT DISCOURSE. IM NOT SAYING "oh, just tolerate them! we have bigger problems than.." NO. ACCEPT THEM. SUPPORT THEM.

(Ily also just aroaces that are more recognized, but I want the people who feel left out to know they're loved)

OP rarely feels romantic attraction but only uses aroace to describe their identity! I used to use grayromantic but less labels :3

[noxidae]

happy pride month im sending my power to all of you whose queer identity is affected or caused by trauma

[our-arospec-experience]

Some Arospec Identities:

This is a list of some Arospec identities! It may be incomplete, and I am not an expert, so please let me know if there are any mistakes/identities you want added. :D

Aromantic: experiencing little or no romantic attraction to anyone; not having romantic feelings.

Aro flux: someone who fluctuates between experiencing romantic attraction and not experiencing it, and/or experiencing romantic attraction to different strengths.

Abroromantic: a fluid attraction, that can mean a fluctuating attraction between genders and/or on or out and/or throughout the aromantic spectrum, to some it's just one or the other, and to others it's both. (explained here by an abro person)

Akoiromantic/lithromantic: an individual who experiences romantic attraction but has no desire or need to have their feelings reciprocated. Sometimes an akoiromantic person’s attraction may fade if a romantic relationship is established.

Alloromantic/zedromantic: someone who does experience romantic attraction. An alloromantic person may be allosexual as well, but not necessarily. This identity is not on the aromantic spectrum.

Cupioromantic: someone who does not experience romantic attraction but has a desire to be in a romantic relationship.

Demi(a)romantic: someone who only experiences romantic attraction after establishing a strong emotional connection to someone.

Frayromantic: someone who experiences romantic attraction, but this attraction fades after getting to know the object of attraction.

Grey-(a)romantic: someone who sometimes, occasionally, or rarely experiences romantic attraction. The attraction they experience may be weak, or it might be infrequent. Also used as an umbrella term for all romantic orientations that fall between alloromantic and aromantic.

Quoiromantic/WTF-romantic: someone who finds romantic attraction confusing, or cannot differentiate between platonic and romantic attraction, or is unsure of whether they experience romantic attraction. It can also mean someone who feels like the concept of romantic attraction doesn't apply to them.

Nebularomantic: is a neurosexuality specific to neurodiverse individuals, and it falls on the aromantic spectrum. It's a label for individuals who have difficulty telling the difference between romantic and platonic attraction specifically due to their neurodivergence (or can't tell the difference at all).

Caedromantic: having been able to experience romantic attraction in the past, and not experiencing romantic attraction any more, with the feeling that the romantic attraction was taken away/destroyed or left because of a traumatic experience.

Aegoromantic: Someone who is aegoromantic enjoys the concept of romance but does not want to participate in actual romantic activities. An example of this would be an aegoromantic individual enjoying watching a romantic show or reading a romance novel. However acting out these romantic stories in real life would not be appealing to an aegoromantic person. An aegoromantic individual would typically not desire a romantic relationship.

Apothiromantic: individuals on the aromantic spectrum who consider themselves to be romance-repulsed, are called apothiromantic. A romance-repulsed aromantic is repulsed by the idea of romance all together. Like with any romantic identity, apothiromantic individuals can have any sexual orientation. Their aromantic identity is not directly connected to their sexual identity.

Arospike: is an aromantic orientation on the aromantic spectrum. This identity is for those who usually do not feel a romantic attraction. Sometimes however, an arospike can experience a (rare) sudden spike of aromantic attraction that will last for a short amount of time. After this they will return just as quickly, to aromantic.

Autoromantic: is a term for individuals who experience a romantic attraction (exclusive or not) towards themselves. It can occur in different forms, such as: fantasizing about a romantic relationship with yourself. Or, as described above: feeling little to no romantic attraction to others but being able to feel romantic attraction to yourself.

Bellusromantic: defined as someone who has interest in (certain aspects of) traditional romantic behaviour such as holding hands and cuddling. However, a bellusromantic would not experience romantic attraction and does not want an actual romantic relationship. So they keyword here is ‘interest’. The interest is there, but a bellusromantic can’t and wouldn’t want to put it into practice.

Fictoromantic: falls under the aromantic spectrum as they do not experience romantic attraction to (real life) people. Fictoromantic is a term used for individuals who experience romantic attraction exclusively towards fictional characters. Fictoromantic is also known as fictonromantic.

Myrromantic: Someone who identifies as myrromantic is on the aromantic spectrum but might feel confused as to where exactly, as they can experience multiple aromantic identities at once. They can also rapidly fluctuate. As an example: a person who considers themself to be both demiromantic as well as grayromantic. This might be confusing to some, which is why myrromantic can be a more comfortable label to identify with.

Recipromantic: (also known as reciproromantic) someone who does not experience romantic attraction until they know that the other individual is romantically attracted to them first.

Requisromantic: someone who experiences a very limited, or no romantic attraction and interest due to some form of emotional exhaustion. The reason of emotional exhaust may have many reasons such as (bad) past experiences dealing with romance or other emotionally draining reasons.

Amicusromantic: means you don’t have romantic attraction to someone unless you form a platonic bond/ friendship with them.(explained here by an amicusromantic person)

Uniromantic: also known as oneromantic or unianthroromantic, refers to someone who feels romantic attraction toward one person and one person only for advanced periods of time, or perhaps one’s whole lifetime.

Desinoromantic: when one does not experience full-on romantic attraction, but a romantic attraction akin to "liking" someone rather than "loving" them

Idemromantic: when one experiences no notable internal differences between platonic and romantic feelings, often categorizing relationships (and feelings) as platonic or romantic based on external factors.

Alicoromantic or Agnoromantic: someone who knows they are somewhere on the aromantic spectrum, but their romantic orientation does not fit in any aromantic spectrum label.

Iamvanoromantic: the desire to not show romantic affection to someone but you may have the desire to receive some (via @/aroace-safe-space-for-all)

Placioromantic: you don’t have the desire to receive romantic affections but you do have the desire to show some (via @/aroace-safe-space-for-all)

Arohaze: alabel for an arospec individual who’s other orientation(s) are in between or both allo and ace/void. source

Apathromantic: Someone whose orientation form of "romance indifferent" which can also be used as a title. It does not distinguish if the person does or does not have romantic attraction, but just that they are indifferent in receiving it or acting it out. Source

Loveless Aromantic: describes someone who is on the aromantic spectrum that is in some way disconnected from the concept of love, does not feel love, may doubt that they feel love, or rejects the idea of experiencing love. source

Lovequeer: someone who fully rejects the concept of “love” as society applies it for romance, and to redefine the word around oneself and the types of love neglected by amatonormativity. source

Subtiliaromantic: someone who experiences zero romantic attraction.

Non-SAM aro: an aromantic individual who doesn’t use the Split Attraction Model, aka the SAM.

Voloromantic: (via @pixelatedboombursts) an individual who is attracted to others after thinking/fantasizing about being attracted to them for a while

Again, tell us if there's any we can add/ have got wrong (probably tell mod ozzie, he's the one that updates it)