Is there any point in identifying as queer if my attraction to the same gender isn't romantic? Like, if I'm never going to have to face the struggles of being visibly queer, and most, if not all people who see me will just check me as one of those straight girls who kiss girls at parties for fun, won't it be offensive/detrimental for the queer community? I've been kind of sitting on it for a while and I'm not sure how good it'd be to identify with a community knowing I don't, and won't face the same challenges as the rest of the people there, it's odd
If the label queer helps you to describe yourself, if the queer community makes you feel like you belong, if you're political in a queer way, if it feels good to know there are other people like you, if you want to show that there are many ways to be queer, if you want a community to talk about your attraction to girls and your experiences, then is that not reason enough? If none of that fits you or your identity, then that's alright, but there is more to queerness than marrying another woman.
Additionally, visible queerness is often a choice and not being visibly queer makes nobody any less queer. It also can be a struggle in and of itself because it can be harder to connect to one's own community and in the case of being closeted or stealth, it comes with the dangers of being outed.
Whether you want to identify as queer is your own choice, but we will welcome you into the community if you decide to, and we will support you either way.
@queercutlureis @variorientedcultureis
-toni
