A Random Reading For Someone Who Needs It:
I felt called to do a random relationship dynamics reading for someone who needs to hear it. This reading was specifically channeled for a person who is already following me the first time they see it, who genuinely admires my work, and is rooting for my success.
The energy that I’m picking up on is decidedly feminine, regardless of who you are or what you identify as, this other person has played the role of a sister to you, more than anything else.
She is on the left, you are on the right. I had to take two photos of this spread, because the 4 of cups at the bottom of the deck felt more significant than usual. Typically I use that card to indicate what a querent can do to change their fate if they don’t like what the cards have shown, but in this particular case, it felt more like an addition to the energies of what lies between you two.
She is currently in a period of transition or travel. Her energy is stable, yet extremely cautious, serious, and bordering on workaholism.
You are in a period of being stuck in your head about something, ruminating about situations that were traumatic, or unpleasant for you. But your energy is ambitious, successful, practical, and secure.
With Judgement and The Sun between you, there is no animosity there, but I’m also going to go out on a limb and say that you’re not quite as close as you once were or would like to be now. There is absolutely a strong sense that your current separation or circumstances were inevitable. With the 4 of cups there is apathy, and withdrawal between the two of you. You have both grown bored of the other’s antics/personalities. But with the sun we see that you each only wish joy and success upon the other.
She thinks that you’re like… stuck… in limbo, balancing a bunch of things, or taking on too much. In her eyes you are unhappy, and withdrawn, she might see you as happy and fulfilled—just not as happy and fulfilled as she is lmao. With these major arcana I’m getting the sense that she thinks you’re “just one of those people who’s far better off alone”. Lmao. The energy I’m channeling from her in relation to this question carries with it a bit of haughtiness and superiority, as if she thinks she’s better than you.
She feels betrayed by you, but a part of her has made peace with that. With Temperance specifically there is an air of her primarily not feeling much for you, but also when she does feel something for you it’s mainly the need to be patient with you… like you’re some sort of toddler throwing a fit or something. With the 7 of Pentacles in reverse we see that she is just done with you. Ultimately whatever relationship you two used to have has been put firmly in the past for her.
This is where the message starts to conflict itself, I feel like this truly is a really complicated sister dynamic, because these cards show that she does truly respect you in her mind… at the very least she tells herself that she respects you. I am still catching the ever so slight air of superiority and smugness when channeling her energy, plus these queen cards almost make me think that she plays the role of respecting you while you’re around, but it’s almost like this is done to placate you or prevent further confrontation.
The energy here is complex, and it contradicts itself, to say the least.
Her hopes for the relationship are interesting, I’m getting the sense that she used to use you as a source for comfort, and almost hold you on a pedestal or as a mother figure, and when she came head to head with the brutal fact that you are human she simply couldn’t come to terms with that. It’s like that falling off the pedestal or you stepping of the pedestal she built you was the betrayal I mentioned earlier, and whether she wants to admit or not, she couldn’t handle the idea of being in a relationship with you while also viewing you as human…
With the 9 of cups reversed specifically, I’m seeing that she wants to go back to a time when you were fulfilling all of her wishes instead of treating her the way she treated you.
What you’re meant to learn from this relationship is how to have unbridled enthusiasm, how to derive power from your creativity, be your own knight in shining armor instead of waiting on or expecting anyone else to change their behavior enough to meet your needs. You’re meant to learn how to be confident, and magnetic, how to invest in and care for your appearance.
The energy here is really that of visionary status, and I am getting the sense through this whole reading that this person treated you poorly, then got mad enough to cut you off when you started treating her the way she treated you, or even told her she was hurting you, then had the audacity to play the victim of the situation she created by running around town telling people you betrayed her… and the cards for this question are really that of visionary status. You’re meant to learn how to harness different pains into your creative outlets, and create something new that the world has never seen before. You’re meant to learn how to be UNAPOLOGETICALLY bold, beautiful, and authentically yourself!
You’re better off without her, and you need to do a cord cutting, followed by a reversal spell, followed by a mega cleansing, followed by a protection spell.
For cord cutting I recommend a traditional one without candles, where you’re cutting a black or red thread (maybe some twine) after a brief visualization or journaling session. Get a red candle and a black candle for the reversal spell. A mega cleansing would be like an egg cleanse followed by a salt shower/bath where you also rub a camphor tablet over yourself, and light some white candles to purify your energy. Black candle and protection oil for protection spell. Rub the oil on your spine, and the bottoms of your feet.
Advice for you moving forward (beyond what was said about the cleansing and the spell work above) is to have fun, don’t take things so seriously. Leave the past in the past, it doesn’t benefit you now. This relationship can only be mended if both of you are willing to work on it, and it looks like she’s unwilling to acknowledge the fact that she contributed to the poor dynamics of your past relationship, so growing closer to her while keeping your dignity intact is quite the impossible task at this time.
Whether the two of you are blood relatives or not, this person is not your real family. There is something so much better out there for you, there are people who will love and accept you even when you behave like a regular human instead of playing a certain part that they’ve assigned you to in their heads. I keep hearing “you’re better off without her”.
