rarestsparkle replied to your post “Well, I should have known it was too easy -_- … My parents just...”
as a parent I totally understand where your parents are coming from, my oldest daughter can totally live on her own and she is doing 'fine' but she is struggling I would love for her to come home to make it easier on her, because as a mama, thats all I want to do is make it better/easier for her. I really hope you find a solution that makes everyone happy... I don't know the living situation over there; so I can't offer much advice
Thank you for your perspective! I can totally understand that as parents, they want to help, and even that it’s baffling and a bit hurtful that I don’t want them to. But it sounds as if you are accepting that your daughter is doing things her way, even if you wish to have her come home, and that’s not what I’m getting from them right now :( ...
laurenia replied to your post “Well, I should have known it was too easy -_- … My parents just...”
I think what your parents don't understand is the impact of having them as your landlords might have on your mental health. And this is not about not loving them, as you know, but from my understanding of what you are going through (and correct me if I'm wrong) you need independence and your own adult life and being forced back into a more "childlike" role will likely exacerbate your problems. Which is hard to understand if you haven't been there.
Yeah, I don’t know how to make them understand that there is a level of dependence involved in adding that aspect to our relationship :/. They can tell me that it won’t change anything all they want, you are right that “no strings attached” is just not something that happens. And yeah, it all boils down to them not accepting my boundaries, which is exactly why I feel kinda uncomfortable about the idea of moving back to RT (it’s easier to protect your boundaries when you have some physical distance, too).
*sigh* In the end, I can’t make them understand ...
*hugs* Thank you so much, darling!
