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I realized that most of my friends ( especially girls) are still trapped in a toxic relationship, including me. and it makes me wonder how it comes that we tend to give more and more chances and accept less then we deserve ? do we think so badly of ourselves ? are we just not able to be strong enough to be alone ? do we just like to see the good in people and that's why we give so many chances ? because we know that we too are not perfect and hard to handle sometimes. Is that why we accept all the constant bullshit ? because we think we're not better ? because we think that this is exactly what we deserve ? what is it? fear of being alone ? new circumstances? the unknown, that scares us? the question in our head ' will I ever find the right one or will I always be alone '? should I just stop looking for perfect and just accept what I have found, because I'd might not get any better anyways. At least now i know my partner good enough to know what i'm expecting.. I know what I signed up for, right ? but the new, the unknown? that's scary. what if it hurts more ? I'm used to this pain know, but I think, I can handle. but something new? something that might hurt me too, but in a different way? I'm not so sure how to handle. yeah it will make me grow etc. but at what price ? are we willing to take the risk and the price ? I honestly think that most of the time we are not. so are we lazy? excepting the easy instead of looking for the right ? which might lead us through more and more heartbreak ? before we might realize it's just best to be alone ? alone ? that word again. can we stand being alone in a world full of expectations and couples ? but what if we all think like this already in my close cycle.. where does this lead? A lot of people ending up with the wrong person, because of fear..? that is so much more than not right ! but what to do about it ? how will humanity change in a age of fear and of feeling unstable. where the government and everything else makes us think it all could end soon ? fear. the most powerful thing to make people do what you want them to. In this age where we are so safe and have everything. We would be too happy. No one wants too happy people. happy people don't buy as much, because they might not see the need for it. but people of fear, they will get anything. even into unhappy relationships because of the fear of ending up alone. and where does this lead us? unhappy couples. trying to make everything to seek for happiness. while we're forgetting what's really important in our life's. our own mental health. being okay with who we are. we don't need to be perfect and we have to remember that everything is part of life and that we should appreciate each and every bit of it. because that's what makes us us. we should stop to seek for fulfillment in other things or other people and start to seek fulfillment within ourselfves. this is the only way how we truly can find our worth and once we found that, we will automatically fall for the right persons. without fear. because we know what we want. we won't look for perfect anymore but for rareness and what best matches ours. we won't look for someone to fill the holes and won't project all our expectations of happiness on this person. but we will seek for someone that is actually matching. no holes to fill because there aren't any left. just sparkling and nice extras. and even if it's not happy all the time, it's okay. because the happiness of our relationship just adds up to our own, but is not needed to fulfill us, because we're full already. it's just a nice extra. no pressure, no expectations. just something we choose to want to have. and once we choose because we want it but not need it, we will be in relationships for the right reasons. with the right person. because any other shit doesn't have space in our life anymore.