Hmm... This is an excellent question. Especially in the context of Patriarchy™ which teaches us that women should always be humble and never take pride in any of their accomplishments. We tend to dismiss and minimize our achievements instead of holding them up. When men do it, they are called confident, successful, self-assured. When women do it, we are called arrogant, uppity, braggadocios. That’s right I said braggadocios. And I’m sick to DEATH of it. So here goes.
I’m proud of EVERYTHING I have achieved in life. Especially because I have achieved a lot of these things against many odds. I managed to get my Ph.D. in Science™ while struggling with an as yet undiagnosed chronic illness. I managed to get a black belt in a martial art even though my body was going through constant dislocations and pain. I came here as an immigrant and I have learned English well enough to enable me to write oodles and oodles of gayness for y’all, and I’m also incredibly proud of that. I’m proud of the fact that I don’t ever take shit from anyone. That I haven’t let society dictate how I live, whom I love, or what the everloving fuck I do with my womb. I’m proud of the fact that even though many many years have been incredibly hard, I’m still here, I’m still working, I’m still part of society, and I’m going to keep doing it for as long as I possibly can, because I’m fueled by spite and rage and motherfuckers will never grind me down. I will always and will forever stand up in the face of motherfuckery. And I hope when I’m dead and they cremate me, that they say “There goes El: she took no shit.”