To the anon who asked why breaking boundaries is okay if they don't know about it:
It's because you're not breaking boundaries. A person's boundaries exist as their own personal comfort level and should be respected when you're interacting with them or their space. Someone cannot enforce boundaries onto places they don't control or have any involvement in. Boundaries are lines you set for yourself and enforce for yourself. You cannot demand things of other people or insist they cater to your comfort level in spaces you do not own or have presence. And simply going to a place like ao3 does not give you the right to authority.
If you cannot personally enforce something (eg blocking a user or banning a chatter) after establishing what you are comfortable with, then it isn't a boundary; it's a demand that everyone else exist in their own spaces with the constant thought of hypothetical interaction.
It is okay to be uncomfortable sometimes. You are enforcing a boundary every time you warn someone of consequences or block them. You are not enforcing a boundary by creating rules and expecting everyone else to cater to you when there are already mechanics in place that you can use to make your online experience more comfortable.
If the thought of someone making art of you that you don't like is uncomfortable, that's normal. Use the tools in place to enforce your boundaries by blocking and filtering.
Demanding a creator talk about shipping when they've already established it makes them uncomfortable is crossing a boundary. Writing a fic on a fan website and minding your own business is not.
referring to this anon
