It is not success that matters, it is not failure that matters. The psychology and mindset behind the event actually matters. Success which makes you overconfident and arrogant will never last longer. If failure makes you depressed and develops a sense of inferiority complex, you will not gain power to attempt again. To keep on trying again and again is the essence of success.
Duniya ka yeh kanoon hai, kamiyabi ka yeh usool hai, ki jab koi insan ya koi bhi shay, koi bhi makhlook kisi fann ka mahir na ho, use koi kaam karna na aata ho, kisi kaam me use dushwari aur mushkil pesh aati ho, koi kaam use challenging lagta ho, to use ibtedayi marhale me nakaami ka, haar ka failure ka saamna karna hi padta hai. Chunti (ant) deewaro par gir gir kar chadhna sikhti hai. Giraffe ka bachcha jab paida hota hai to kareeb 8 feet upar se apne maa ke rahan se girta hai. Uski maa (mother giraffe) use baar baar apne pairon se uchhalti hai aur woh bachcha uth uth kar girta hai. Woh pairon se kick marti hai, jab tak baccha khud uth kar apne pairo par khada na ho jaye aur khud uth kar doodh peena na seekh le. Insan ke liye isme sabak yeh hai ki jab insan kisi kaam me haar jata hai, gir jata hai aur fail ho jata hai to woh pastt aur lachar ho jata hai, depress ho jata hai. Woh apne comfort zone se kabhi bahar nahi aana chahta.
Failure koi buri chiz ya sharmnaak chiz nahi hai. Shikast ke pardon ke pichhe hi fatah chhupi hoti hai. Us jeet ko haasil karne ke liye insan ko ek mukammal process se guzarna padta hai. Failure ko hame zillat ka concept nahi dena hai, balki hamen yeh samajna hai ki trial and errors ke zariye hi hum practice karte hain aur kuchh seekhte hain. Aksar aisa hota hai ki ibtedayi marhale me first attempt me hi koi chiz achanak hum achieve kar leta hai to phir insan use easy le leta hai, lekin jab paseena baha kar, thoda mental stress daal kar, kuch mashakkaton ke baad jab koi achievement use milta hai to uski khushi me aur contentment me aur izafa hota hai, aur phir woh dugune josh se agle marhale ki taraf aage badhta hai, uska mind activate ho jata hai aur uske samne woh loopholes hote hai jiske bare me woh jaanta hai ki is process ko achieve karne ke liye kya karna hai aur kya nahi. Woh na sirf achiever banta hai balki khud ek trainer, guide aur misal banta hai taki doosro ko bhi woh apne experiments aur experience ka fayeda pahucha sake. Failure ka maqsad yeh hai ki insan cut throat competition wali fields me aur market me jamm kar muqabla karne ke liye josho karosh ke sath, pakke azm o irade ke sath aage badhta rahe.Ā
Agar insan failure se yeh samajh le ki mein barbaad ho gaya, mera startup shuru hone se pahle hi khatm ho gaya, meri haisiyat kuch na rahi, mera wajood zero ho gaya, to phir yeh insan ka apne aapko underestimate karna hota hai, woh inferiority complex ka shikar ho jata hai, waswason me mubatala ho jata hai, shako shub'haat ki wadiyon me kho jata hai, depress ho jata hai aur aise khayalat uske dimag me productive thoughts ko rokte hai, uski creativity ko zang laga dete hain.Ā
Haar koi buri chiz nahi hai, aur naahi jeet buri hai. In dono ke pichhe insan ka jo mindset hai, wahi matter karta hai. Agar haar aur failure insan ko shak me daal de, aur jeet use taqabbur me daal de to phir waha se insan ki ulti ginti shuru hoti hai. Agar haar insan ko bani israel bana de aur jeet use firaun bana de, agar haar use kamzor kar de aur jeet use overconfident kar de to dono chize use le doobti hain. It is the attitude behind events that really matters. Jab insan life me naye naye challenges to tackle karta hai aur phir kisi chiz ka muqammal tajurba hasil karta hai tab jaa kar woh buland muqam hasil karta hai. Uske ander decision making power aata hai, confidence aata hai, reasoning ability aati hai. Aisa ho hi nahi sakta ki use koi mushkil pesh na aaye aur woh bulandiyon par pahuch jaye. Jab woh zindagi me tarah tarah ke risk le kar apne rizk tak pahuchta hai, tab use apna meyar aur apni qaabiliyat ka ehsas hota hai. Insan sahil par khada ho kar samandar ko dekh kar aage badhne ki sochta rahe to uska koi hasil nahi, jab tak woh lehron ki mukhalifaton me kadam na uthaye, toofano se aankh na milaye.
The birth of a baby giraffe is quite an earth-shaking event. The baby falls from its motherās womb, some eight feet above the ground. It shrivels up and lies still, too weak to move. The mother giraffe lovingly lowers her neck to smooch the baby giraffe. And then something incredible happens. She lifts her long leg and kicks the baby giraffe, sending it flying up in the air and tumbling down on the ground. As the baby lies curled up, the mother kicks the baby again. And again. Until the baby giraffe, still trembling and tired, pushes its limbs and for the first time learns to stand on its feet. Happy to see the baby standing on its own feet, the mother giraffe comes over and gives it yet another kick. The baby giraffe falls one more time, but now quickly recovers and stands up. Mama Giraffe is delighted. She knows that her baby has learnt an important lesson: Never mind how hard you fall, always remember to pick yourself up and get back on your feet. Why does the mother giraffe do this? She knows that lions and leopards love giraffe meat. So unless the baby giraffe quickly learns to stand and run with the pack ā it will have no chance of survival.Ā
Never mind how hard you fall, always remember to pick yourself up and get back on your feet. Most of us though are not quite as lucky as baby giraffes. No one teaches us to stand up every time we fall. When we fail, when we are down, we just give up. No one kicks us out of our comfort zone to remind us that to survive and succeed, we need to learn to get back on our feet.
This is a very critical lesson for us especially for those in Startups ā where we fall often & worse we never get out of comfort zones, we fail to get up, only to fall prey for the lions and the hyenas of the market forces. We should remember that just because we created a great product, we should never sit idle assuming customers will rush to our door steps ā remember the famous adage ā āBuild a better mousetrap, and the world will beat a path to your door ā ā it will never happen. Get kicked, get out, burn your sole and market & sell your product,
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