I'm a writing mentor to two grade 8 students at an elementary school a few blocks over and today the girl, we'll call her K, made the smoothest save.
K: *Accidentally messes up my pronouns.*
Me: *Shifts uncomfortably, not really up for bringing it up.*
K: *Notices* Oh, sorry. I meant he. I screw up pronouns all the time, you should have seen my brother's face the one time I referred to him as a girl.
Me: *Laughs it off and nods.*
K: *Goes back to original conversation like nothing happened.*
It is NOT that hard to correct yourself on pronouns without making someone feel like crap. It is NOT that hard to use someone's preferred pronouns.
I was awed and very proud to be working with that girl, she's thirteen and more respectful and understanding than a lot of adults I've had to explain things to.