Heya. I'm Mod Damien (any pronouns). I took over this blog a while ago and didn't update the intro post up until now. I'm AGABless and AGABpunk. I also use neoAGABs as a way of obscuring whatever my "legal" AGAB is in situations where I have to give an AGAB for some reason.
If anyone else wants to become a mod, feel free to DM me!
This is a new our-experience blog for anyone who considers themselves AGABpunk! AGABpunk is a broad term that involves rejecting the concept of AGAB as it is currently used and reinventing it for oneself. It includes AFAB transfems, AMAB transmascs, transmascfems, AFAB cis men, AMAB cis women, those who self-assign their AGAB, those who use neoAGABs and xenoAGABs, AGABless people, and so much more! My header is the AGAB non-conforming flag because there is no AGABpunk flag, which is also why my icon is just the default icon.
You can submit experiences starting with “My AGABpunk experience is…”, but you can also start them with a specific identity under the AGABpunk umbrella, such as “My AMAB transmasc experience is…”, “My AFAB cis man experience is…”, “My S-AFAB experience is…”, “My ASAB (Assigned Sleepy At Birth) experience is…”, or “My AGABless experience is…”. You can also include another identity in your ask, like “My bisexual AGABpunk experience is…”, “My plural AFAB transfem experience is…”, or “My AGABless transmasc experience is…”
Rules and more under the read more.
Some ground rules:
1- Intersex people are pretty much the founders of the AGABpunk and AGAB non-conforming community, and continue to be some of its most important members. Intersexism is very much not welcome here. For a look at what casual intersexism in the queer community looks like, check out these posts:
(Note from 2025: This is an older post! You may have to give some of the points made here some extra wiggle room for Nuance.)
Stripping our
Perisex (non-intersex) people please take time to work through this. I'd also appreciate if you reblogged, even if you don't have time to do
2- However, intersex people are not the only members of the AGABpunk community. There are many reasons that perisex people would feel connected to the community and the labels under it. Gatekeeping is not welcome here, whether it’s gatekeeping the AGABpunk label itself or any of the labels in its umbrella. Both intersex and perisex AGABpunk people are important.
3- Another big reason people identify as AGABpunk is plurality. For that reason, I want this blog to be a safe space for all plurals. I will block anti-endos. Attempts to start syscourse here will also be blocked. I want all plurals of all origins to feel safe here. And I cannot do that while welcoming anti-endos.
I am not accepting any bigotry or discourse around labels (unless it's to do with certain labels like 'transintersex').
A note on AFAB transfems and AMAB transmascs: In the past I was accused of supporting the “fetishization of trans people by cis people” by supporting these labels. I was also told that I clearly didn’t think trans women were real women and trans men were real men for supporting them. These are both wild conclusions to draw. Mostly because they’re not true. Why does the existence of AFAB transfems and AMAB transmascs imply either of those things? If you repeat these arguments, I will assume you don’t actually understand what you’re talking about.
A note on self-assignment, neoAGABs, and xenoAGABs: I was also told that these terms were making light of an oppressive system by claiming that you could just be whatever AGAB you want and that AGAB wasn’t about what your doctor wrote down. That they harm the ability of people to talk about the way people are oppressively categorized into a sex binary. Which I understand. I do think that some uses of the terms come off as insensitive. But I also think that there are good-faith ways of using them. That claiming that they are bad in all contexts is harmful. I will continue to assume good faith with them. But I understand the opposition.
Tagging some blogs to get this off the ground: @our-honeybee-transfem-experience, @coffeebean-transmasc-experience
