The moment I started taking accountability for my actions and decisions was when I saw that I was never powerless. I saw that I have always had control over certain aspects of my life. Aspects like my behaviours, boundaries, emotions, my thoughts, my career, my relations in my personal and professional relationships and my health. Taking accountability helped me see that I have always had choices and the hard part was accepting that sometimes, I had made choices that were not in my best interest. To help myself moving forward I had to stop blaming external factors for my own mistakes, shortcomings or unhealthy choices and see that I have the power to change the things that frustrate me in my life. Getting out of my own way meant analysing how, why and where I was stopping my own growth. No human or situation ever had control over my life and destiny, only I did. I see that now. We will always have the power to transform, heal or leave something that is not working for us. No one is powerless and nothing has the power to control you, you can only give permission for an experience or another to control you.
