Self-Care for the Rest of Us
Self-care is hard for lots of us, for many reasons. But it doesn’t help that most of the popular suggestions are a friggin' sensory nightmare (temperature changes, fragrances, nudity, new places, bright lights, having stuff touching you, strangers looking at various body parts, etc. etc.) Obviously everyone has different positive and negative sensory experiences, but just once I'd like to see a list that's a little more generally neurodivergent-friendly.
some random ideas to get us started:
Wear your favorite jacket indoors, or your favorite fuzzy pajamas outdoors.
Fiddle with something that has a texture you appreciate.
Sit as weirdly as possible. (If you can do so safely, of course)
Try adjusting the environment so you’re really comfortable. Just for a little while, ignore everyone else and arrange the universe to your precise specifications. (If you live with someone else, obviously you’ll want to get buy-in from them first.)
Turn all the lights off (or on). Wear sunglasses if it helps. Get some soft yellow LEDs and/or opaque lampshades for diffuse lighting.
Turn down the brightness/contrast on your monitor. Try Dark Mode in your browser or your whole computer.
Turn off/unplug chargers, surge protectors, TVs, smart outlets, and any other electronics that make That Sound.
Wear earplugs or headphones around the house, even with no music. Or, try turning music up (safely) loud, if that helps you breathe.
Turn up the heat/AC/fan and sit right next to the radiator/vent.
Close your eyes and rock back and forth. (It’s a classic for a reason.)
Tell people you’re going on a social media break. If at all possible, arrange to avoid seeing the words "yoga", "mindfulness", "positive", "holistic", and "wellness" for 48 hours.
I can’t promise any of these will work for you, of course, and not everyone has the resources to try them. But the idea is to think of things that might make you more comfortable and help you relax, and try doing them sometimes, whether that means lighting scented candles or banning scented candles (even unlit ones) from the house for a week. You might find that some of these changes could even be made permanent.