#setting a boundary

[themanirealityshifter]

Setting A Boundary

to all my besties on here, and randos on here as well, who may interact with me.

first of all, love y’all. not mad at any of you.

buuut i do wanna say that i’m not so comfy with y’all calling me “pookie” “gorgeous” “beautiful” or anything of the like that is more traditionally romantic. i know y’all mean it in a platonic way, but i always get a bit uncomfy about it, plus my partner is uncomfy about it, soooo i would appreciate it if you peeps used more traditionally platonic/non-romantic nicknames instead in the future when interacting with me!!

some examples of things i’m comfy with are: bestie/best friend, bro, dude, father, dad, etc.

if y’all have any questions to make sure if something is comfy or uncomfy, just ask!!!

love y’all <3

[saradrewitt]

Will say this on my Twitter too but if you ship Copiiia or any form of incest please kindly block me and or do not interact with me or my content, I do not condone that kind of stuff and it’s makes me highly uncomfortable.

I hope this is the only time I get to announce this and set this boundary. Thank you.

[adhd-worlds]

Setting a boundary? Me? A people pleaser? Doing it while feeling guilty? Nooooo neverrr /s

[howifeltabouthim]

' . . . don't expect me ever to lie or cover up for you again. I think I did it one too many times.'

Mary Balogh, from Tangled

[crabcrabcrabmeat]

Oughh

[boxedforyourdemise]

I don't want tulpas or tulpamancers on my blog. Please go away. You've done enough damage here. You've spread enough lies.

Don't bother responding. I'm not saying this to put it up for debate. All attempts at discourse will be blocked.

This isn't discourse. This is a boundary. Cross it, and you're an asshole.

[impactpersonalsafety-blog]

Success Story #3

Setting Boundaries

Prior to our class a graduate had been having problems with an ex-boyfriend showing up at her house and harassing her via text and email. She emailed that she finally felt she had the tools and confidence to stand up to him. When he showed up uninvited last week she was able to set a boundary with him telling him how inappropriate his continued attentions were. This started a conversation wherein she realized he thought they were still friends while she had lived in fear of him and felt he was stalking her. Now the communication between them is cleared up and she has the space and distance from him she needs for a comfortable life.

[impactpersonalsafety-blog]

Success Story #1

College Freshman Stands Up for Herself

Things got ugly at a pre-college party for, Carly, one of our graduates. Another incoming freshman had been paying her unwanted attention all through the college tour. At a party that night he had "way too much to drink," she explains.

"I didn't even know him and he was acting like we were best friends. He kept trying to put his arm around me so I used my verbal skills to tell him I wasn't interested. I had to get louder and louder with my 'leave me alone' boundary but he didn't get it. After I intercepted his hug he asked me if I was a bitch. I said 'yes I am so leave me alone.' Instead he tried to kiss me so I did the Shark-bite pinch to his arm. He finally backed off and asked what was wrong with me so I screamed 'I SAID NO!' He left the party after that and some of the other girls thanked me since he'd been bothering them too. I feel lucky to have my IMPACT training and know I won't be a freshman year statistic. I'm ready for any creeps that come my way. I am hoping to meet a nice guy though."

Carly's talking about the statistic that one in four college freshman will be sexually assaulted - usually by someone she knows. Way to set a great example for your new dorm-mates, Carly! Good luck in school!