#shiftblrteas

[alpinecherub]

On shiftblr tea and stepping away

Honestly it's incredibly draining and discouraging to see people's hidden hatred. I blocked a lot of people here to keep a peace of mind but it just never ends. I rejoined this community with the support of my friends but I started to regret this decision. Barely anyone is ever respectful here. I can understand not liking someone or even hating them but I can't with the unnecessary drama.

Constantly seeing my moots or literally blogs who mind their own business being targeted really drags my mood down. I'm not that naive to think that shiftblr was ever a peaceful rainbow glitter land but this is genuinely too much. Discourse, extreme crudeness, racism, never ending fights. At this point this community has lost its reason.

Also one thing is overflowing jealousy. Being blogger is really easy all you have to do is posting consistently and being a little professional instead of picking fights with strangers. You can't hate a blogger because they have a lot of followers or their shifting storytime sounds "fake". You all constantly ask for shifting storytimes and call bloggers liars, unreliable, fake, arrogant when you DO get storytimes.

You can't whine about original content or people "stealing" from others when the topic itself is like older than everyone in this community and been studied a lot. I don't know who to trust anymore. I love a lot of my moots they're all amazing people. But I don't think all the negativity is worth it anymore. I left this app for two weeks during the older shiftblrtea era and now we got a 0.2, how great 😑

Why can't we just report them?

[dizzy-shifts]

Oh god it’s back.

[noahblr]

Hi Noah hope you're ok after everything that has been happening, I was just wondering why you don't block these weirdos. Ofcourse I understand if you want to address what they're saying but I genuinely feel bad and was just curious why you don't DNI.

hello, anonymous! i am doing amazingly, at the moment, as i am catching a flight tomorrow to another state for a wedding.

it is absolutely okay to ask me why i do not just block the people harassing me, and i would like to give an explanation as i know many people who are observers of this conflict are curious to know.

personally, i have dealt with what you call "passive parenting" which is a type of parenting that is non-confrontational. in summary, in conflicts between children, parents who passively parent will simply ignore the conflict or do little to nothing to prevent or stop said conflict.

when i block someone, it removes responsibility on my part on their actions. am i saying that people who block their harassers are avoiding responsibility? no. i am saying in my own experience and mindset, i believe that if i block someone, i am not changing anything, but simply protecting myself.

many of the people harassing me are hiding behind an anonymous account, there is no way for me to block them.

and regards to the account these "confessions" are being posted on, if i block the account, they will still post lies about others and myself.

not everyone has the mental stability or energy to defend themselves from harassment and lies spread about then, and that is not their faults.

as someone who has been that person who was not able to defend themselves, i feel a personal infliction to defend these people who are being attacked on this blog, because no one else will.

there is a small group of people even criticizing the blog, and defending those who are harassed by the blog, but this is only a small group of people, many of those who have busy lives and cannot constantly go back and forth with this pathetic blogger.

i am currently on vacation, and have time there and there, so i will provide my help when i can.

if i block these people, lies will be spread about me either way. i might as well have the ability to combat these lies, then have an "out of sight out of mind" mindset.

this is just my personal experience, and i apologize if i made it appear like i am the only one who defend those who are criticized on the blog (there are many others) i just wanted to emphasize that the people defending the victims of this blog, are a very small group, and when these people do defend the criticized, they are harassed and degraded.

it is mentally draining to constantly deal with these confessions, not everyone has the energy or time to constantly be at the forefront of this "battle", i personally do, so until i do feel mentally drained i will be combatting these people until the blog is taken down.