...who when asked on the state of her romantic relationship and her closeness to her partner, proudly announces that she is essentially his executive secretary. Brags about how she provides oversight and guidance to her man and his life and his tasks.
This might sounds cute, but witnessing it firsthand, I assure you it is not.
The man is a forgetful slob. The kind who forgets to close kitchen drawers once he opens them. The kind who will remove the top off a pot and leave it off inviting flies and his cat to venture in as they please. A forgetfulness she finds charming and chalks up to his personality. A penchant for filth that is characteristic of her lover that she accepts because he accepts her.
This girl is my junior and is often the case with younger adults, they don’t care for reason.
How long will she support the filth? Though much can’t be said because she tends to mess herself.
Will the forgetfulness be cute when he once again does not close the door because he rushed to play 2K on his console 1 foot away? Or when he is late to work repeatedly because he plays a video game knowing he has 10 mins before he must leave? Will it be cute when you have children and he forgets something of grand importance?
Seeing my sister’s relationship saddens me. It’s too one-sided. She will not eat dinner because she prefers to eat with him. So that means my anemic sister, who has been told on multiple occasions to eat regularly will not eat until 11 pm. No one doubts however that he will eat whenever he pleases.
She does not feel like doing anything unless he is around. She passes time bored and woeful until he arrives and then life is worth living.
Two people who left their partners for respectively better do not form a healthy relationship. I wonder if they had been single when they came together if they would still be together today.
It is a very dependent relationship on her part. She has plans and she has dreams, and he fits into them, but at the end of the day he was trying to escape his family and his feelings of insecurity. It might be the same for her, I don’t know.
She said at the inception of their relationship she did not care if she got pregnant and he was okay. Now she’s on birth control at his mother’s suggestion. She said give me 2 years for a child. Now she doubts that and says later, she’s not ready.
Her convictions are skewed and I know she will change them for him.
I did not know my sister drank as much as she did. I did not know she smoked as much as she did. Her happiness comes from a man and her drugs, and it saddens me.
She is on her last semester (hopefully) of college after she thought the last semester was it. Yesterday one class was cancelled. She didn’t go to her second one because it was cancelled. You would think someone who care for her well-being would say “this is your final year, just go and get it over with so you don’t fail another class and have to stay another semester.” Instead he sat on the couch next to her as they smoked the day away watching anime.
Funnily enough my mother told me the other day she would not give her blessing on their union if they went towards marriage because she for her own reasons does not support their union. Then I surprised her with the news that only solidified her conviction. News of his lack of faith. News I’m sure if my mother had been clearly told previously her dynamic with the boyfriend would be drastically different.
But this girl is sensitive about everything.
She takes a warning against promiscuity in this era of rampant STIs and HIV/AIDS as slut-shaming and not sex positivity. You can’t critique the slob without her taking personal chest-beating offense.
I told my mother that I’m not going to say anything. That I came to the hopeful conclusion that their relationship will implode/end on its own. That they will not proceed to marriage or children.
But I hope my sister stops (or cools severely) with the weed and the drink. I hope she finds a Christian man who pull her with him back to the Lord and away from vague spirituality. And one day, I hope her convictions will be so solid.
