1, 3 and 12 for the fun asks please :) Get well soon.
Thank you for the ask ^-^ And I shall try :')
what are 3 things you’d say shaped you into who you are?
Oooh, tricky question. A lot has helped shape me into who I am, and not all of it has been positive. I think the three biggest influences on my life have got to be:
Bullying: I was bullied a lot in my youth, and it's affected how I see myself and how I hold myself. A lot of my anxiety and self-reliance comes from being bullied, gaslit, and generally traumatised as a kid - there were no real authority figures I could trust, and I got in trouble when I retaliated against my bullies, so I ended up going through life feeling like I couldn't trust or rely on a lot of people. Which brings me to:
Therapy: Let's go for a happier one. I used to have terrible panic attacks at the thought of failing people, or from being in crowds or from trying to make phone calls. It's taken a whole-ass decade and a bunch of different therapies, counselling services, and dudes whose stock response to mental illness is "have you tried weed?" (No and I'm not going to. It's not for me.) but I'm at the point now where I can hold conversations, stand up for myself, and say "no" to the occasional ridiculous request. A lot of that is down to talking things out and finding things out through one-to-one counselling.
My wife: I met @helenmarie95 on this hellsite, and we've been together for a while now. She's been super strong when I've had low moments (like quitting my job bc it was the worst thing for me and then taking a few months to find another) to points where I started questioning my gender and began identifying as non-binary. She's taught me a lot about mental illness, specifically autism and ADHD, and she's been accommodating when I've said stupid shit. And she has shown me some awesome movies and music ^-^
Alright that was a super long answer let's try for a short one next!
3. 3 films you could watch for the rest of your life and not get bored of?
Alright real quick:
Kung Fu Panda 2 (it's the best one! And there's always something new to spot!)
Booksmart (It's fun! It's funny! And I know my wife loves it :3 )
Oblivion (Yes it's kinda generic, but it's an interesting sci-fi premise with a heavyweight cast and some drop-dead gorgeous cinematography, so I feel confident I'd never get bored of it)
12. what’s some good advice you want to share?
So we've kinda covered it already, but: learn how to say no. Also join your union at work. Also if you've got a bad cold, eating four Kinder Bueno bars in a row isn't a good idea.
It'll feel like it's a good idea, but it's not!
That's all I got. Thank you for the questions!
