*skitters into your askbox again [but this time like a spider]* may i request a jumping spider otherhearted phone wallpaper with themes of kandi jewelry, crocheted sweaters and accessories, and glitter?
here you go, we hope you enjoy! doing this request has officially made me kinfirm jumping spiders as a linktype :0 (also clover (flax) is going apeshit over these adorable little creatures in the background)
learn to weave, crochet, knit, or some other way of “spinning web”!
get or make some bug shaped or themed treats!
collect bug trinkets/toys/plushes/etc and decorate your living space with them!
have fun trying out rock climbing, bouldering, other climbing centers/sports, or tree climbing!
wear dark clothing!
collect spider/spiderweb themed jewellery!
do dark or spider themed makeup!
get fang gear!
try out cosplay or makeup looks with multiple eyes, or make yourself spider eye gear/masks!
find a cozy or dim corner to pile blankets and pillows in in your home to make your web!
i hope these are helpful!! -👾
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Spiderhearted culture is never knowing anyone who’s spiderhearted or connected to spiders in any way except yourself, and feeling lonely because most spiders may be solitary but you’re a human and you crave connection
I've been thinking about the post regarding how difficult it is to explain what being otherhearted is like. And well, I guess I like a bit of a challenge. I'd also like to attempt to convey my experiences for the sake of anyone trying to figure out if they're otherhearted or not. While otherheartedness is broad and not everyone will experience it like me, I always think it's helpful to have people to compare notes with when questioning.
I'm going to focus on my spider hearttype for this post, for simplicity's sake. I might make another post about my fictional hearttype at a later date. I might not. Idk.
This is kinda long, so I'm putting it under a cut.
There are two main sentiments that I hold that led me to the label spiderhearted:
I feel a familial attachment to spiders
I feel I am a spider-themed person
On point 1:
I feel a maternal instinct towards spiders - something I notably thought I lacked entirely before I realized that the term could apply to other things besides human children. My brain registers basically every spider as my wonderful little child. I'm proud of them for being their spidery selves. I love them so much. Just looking at them brings me joy and comfort.
There is some nuance to this attachment because I feel it while also still seeing and appreciating them as a part of nature. So, it's not upsetting to me to see a tarantula hawk doing its thing or a bird hunting a spider or whatever. That's part of the spider's role in the ecosystem. It's important.
However, it is extremely upsetting to me when spiders are killed for no good reason by people. I don't even want to ever hear about it. It's also upsetting to hear people insulting them in general. I've blocked people just for calling them gross (and I'm not sorry about it).
On point 2:
This is definitely related to one of my kintypes (Widowmaker from Overwatch), but it plays into my otherheartedness in a big way as well.
You know how a lot of fictional characters have an animal as a motif, while still being human/humanoid themselves? I see myself as someone with a spider motif.
And I certainly enjoy presenting myself in this way. I like wearing spider-themed accessories and clothes. (Contrast this to the gear I have for my kintypes, where my aim is to literally look like that species or character instead. I don't have a shirt with a satyr on it, I have well-made costume horns and goat legs.)
And this applies online, too. My main handle is SpiderQueenPC. On sites I don't use as much, it's usually spidergoth.
I just really want people to associate me with spiders, basically. I'm spider-adjacent. That's part of my self-perception right alongside literally being certain species and characters.
On the surprise point 3 that I didn't list above because I don't consider it as crucial as the first 2:
I have some spidery traits. And by this, I mean a couple of things. The first one is pretty direct: I want to eat bugs. Not in the "I hate this animal so I want to eat it" internet comment way. (As I'm sure you can guess, I love bugs in general.) I just... don't see them as necessarily not-food the way most people do. Eating fried mealworms or whatever seems just as normal to me as eating a hamburger.
(Please don't derail this post by starting discourse about meat consumption in the notes. Please.)
The second one is metaphorical. I'm an illustrator. A professional one, now, but I've always drawn as a hobby. Throughout my entire life I have pursued this form of creativity out of what I can only describe as sheer instinct. I can point to inspirations for why I draw the way I do, but drawing in general? That's just innate to me, like eating and breathing. And I see spiders as a good metaphor for this. They, too, create out of instinct.
Conclusion:
Otherheartedness is multi-faceted and a little odd and that's what's lovely about it. I'm not sure how much this admittedly somewhat rambly post really conveys the experience, but at least I can say I tried. I encourage other folks in the otherhearted community to give it a go too, if you want to. Thanks for reading.
Becoming spiderhearted was one of the best things that ever happened to me. Choosing to foster a positive relationship with spiders was one of the best choices I ever made.
Today I saw my Borneo Black Tarantula, Tigermis, out and about during the day for the first time ever. It felt like seeing a unicorn. It literally made my day to just be able to look at this strange little animal
learn crochet, weaving, knitting, or something else that feels like learning to use your webs/string!
try some spider vocals!
use makeup to make extra eyes, or wear accessories with extra eyes!
play minecraft!
get a mod that lets you play as a spider!
decorate your living space to look like a mineshaft or minecraft cave!
avoid super bright lights!
along those lines, get some cozy mood lightening (maybe from lava lamps or other things that remind you of your cave home!)
make some minecraft mob friends!
hope these help! -🩸
Requests open!!!
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