They're acting like Arya is the same person she was when she left Winterfell 7 seasons ago. Like she is still a petulant little girl fighting with her sister. She has gone through 7 seasons of unspeakable trauma including watching multiple family members die. She went through a tremendous struggle to reclaim her identity as a Stark. Through it all was the notion of a "pack" that drove her character. "The lone wolf dies, but the pack survives" After King's Landing and the Red Wedding she had become the lone wolf and had lost her pack. There was a hole in her heart where her family had been that was so painful she thought would never ever heal. It was too painful to be Arya Stark and remember what it was like to have a family, to be part of a pack, to be loved and protected. She tried to find family again with Gendry, Hot Pie, even the Hound to a point, but she couldn't find it. She defended her pack, even if she wasn't with them. Every action she took was to avenge the wrongs done to her pack, or to find her way back to them. She sees herself as a protector of her pack. She goes after anyone who wronged them. That is why she has her list. It was easier after all the trauma she endured to not be Arya Stark anymore, to throw away her identity and be No One. But she couldn't. Because of Needle, which was Jon Snow's smile. Because of the snow melting in Robb's hair as they left Winterfell. Because of her father smiling down at her, the wolf blood, Bran and Rickon, her mother, and the girl she had known a million years ago who had loved lemon cakes. This was her pack. Try as she might to fight it and bury the pain that came with this identity she couldn't be No One. Arya recognizes more than anyone the importance of family. Her experiences have done nothing but to strengthen this bond with them. For D&D to insinuate that Arya would antagonize and threaten to kill one of the 3 remaining members of her pack, the most important thing in the world for her, is an insult to her character.
