“A gender-fluid person is a living example of an excluded middle, a person who eludes the binary categories of male and female, who cannot be reduced to “being” or “not being” a man or a woman.”
in ‘Buddha, Socrates, and Us’, stephen batchelor discloses the story of a disciple approaching the Buddha and asking two questions: “is there a self?” and “is there no self?”. the Buddha’s response to both inquiries is complete silence. this highlights a heavy theme in the faith (lacking attachment to the binaries of “is” and “is not”, “real” and “unreal”, “being” and “ceasing”.). the author then explains a fable where a layman views this same disciple lustfully and is promptly transformed into a woman, who proceeds to run away and start a new life (if you’re interested, it is the story of kaccāna and soreyya). i was not expecting the beautiful commentary on queer identity that followed.
“This tale shows how marginalized people, who did not fit into the normative identities of their culture, could have found acceptance and companionship in the single-sex renunciant communities emerging in India at this period. They may have also been naturally drawn to a philosophy that questioned some of the binary categories that excluded them, while valuing paradox, fluidity, and uncertainty. Rather than prompting a queer person to walk away, Gotama’s silence might have come as a welcome relief.”
the Buddha’s silence is not just a welcome relief, it’s a reminder. a reminder that who i am is not bound to what people at large say i am or am not. i am not confused, but rather following the natural order of the universe that humanity has forgotten. we are not and can never be attached to one label, one identity. anything founded on these fickle human bodies, like gender, is empty. how free am i?