#stonebutch

[hishandswillholdyou]

My lap misses you, princess ✨

[farmerlesbian]

30 yo it/its agender stone butch seeks friends and flings in WNY

likes: swimming, light hikes*, tetris, going out, smoking, making art + music, yappin, a lot more!

looking mostly for local/tri-state area but open for everyone!

@amperrsandd

[latelyloxiv]

Willie in his late 40s vs. his mid 20s.

Willie's fashion doesn't change much over the years, but he definitely is a side character that turned more plot heavy than I originally intended lol

His involvement with Beth is complicated, but his overarching story is one of the happier one's in 15 Mill.

(he/him lesbian)

[thatfloralfemme]

ngl i get so nervous as a stone femme/bottom cause' i do not wanna be called selfish for having a boundary, especially coming from other lesbians/wlw.

like at this point i am terrified to enter a relationship cause' i fear what might happen if whoever i'm w/ isn't okay with it.

especially as a non-binary, fat femme. it's rough.

[bycourageandfaith]

NEW YEARS EVE

[herecomestheboon]

The depths in which Stone Butch Blues has resonated with me is so difficult to capture. 

Reading about trans person with a complicated relationship with said gender, which first and foremost happens so rarely that I wept when I read the first few pages of Stone Butch Blues, means so much to me. Ze really serves as representation for me as a gender queer person that I really haven’t seen anywhere else. And not only did hir book revolve around a character like this, but ze lived that experience and fought for hir’s demographic to be represented in the LGBT community, which is a debt I know I can never repay.

I personally can’t speak for the Jewish LGBT sect of the community, but this prominent person was also Jewish, a demographic that is so severely underrepresented. And yet, here is one of the most important people in queer history, and I unapologetically stand by that, is Jewish and is so rarely talked about. I don’t doubt that there are people in our community who are so happy to see someone like them that defined this community in such a major way.

But also, Leslie Feinberg also wrote and lived the experience of being in this grey area of gender and continued to live hir truth as a lesbian, which so many people fight against now and so many other people feel as though they aren’t allowed to do, myself included. But there is no way that TERFs and gatekeepers can take our spot from the lesbian/sapphic table; Leslie made space for us so long ago, and it’s not going anywhere.

I love history and I so often ground myself in knowing the history of my people, meaning the people who made it possible for me to be here. And I consider Leslie Feinberg one of my people who paved the way for me and people like me.

Long story long, read Stone Butch Blues, know your queer history, stop gatekeeping our community, be a gay communist, and punch Nazis.

[wheretheredfieldgrows]

[movedblogsdummies-blog]

“Oh, you’ll want it long someday”

My mother, referring to my hair.

I have always had a, struggle with my hair. Force to keep it long I snapped and buzzed it at 18. After years of having bible quotes thrown at me I had a hatred of my hair, and still do in a way. My hair is part of me, as a woman it is vital to my identity where having long hair is viewes socially beautiful. My hair defines who I am, yet it can also be a burden.

The choice I have made, with my hair and coming to the realization that I don’t like long hair on me. The longer it grows the more anxiety it gives me, I cannot put to words the fear I feel. Looking within the mirror.

Seeing a face that is mine framed by strands that are not of myself. Hair, as a woman we are told to keep our hair. Our hair is a veil, or our hair is a sexual object that must be shielded.

Hair, we are told “if it too long you are easy prey for predators”.

If its too short we are told “Oh your safe! No kidnapper etc shall want you.”

Yet within the same breath you will hear, “Arent you, y’know worried about being mistaken as a man?”

Society has taught us a woman with masculine hair is fiting into a unwanted stereotype. We are shamed, for a masculine woman is looked down upon.

Hair, a gift and a burden. Took me years to learn how to use my hair as a medium of who I am. A masculine woman who isn’t ashamed, a masculine woman that will not be silence.