#stonewalling

[amioverreactingofficial]

AIO to my boyfriend stonewalling me?

Some background: We usually spend 4-5 days a week together, and most the weekend. Our relationship has been the best i have had up until now, we do have a 15 year age gap (25f and 40m) but I haven’t thought anything of it because we both own our houses, established in our careers, etc. he usually goes out of his way to help me and I try to return the favor - he remembers things, does sweet things for me, and has genuinely been a good boyfriend. He has had health issues that could impact his thought abilities before but I have tried to be accommodating of what I tend to notice because it’s not his fault. He does struggle with typing.

He has went out of his way for me, my parents, my friends. He’s been consistent up until about a few weeks ago and has been criticizing things like my driving (see attached screenshot) when I drive us to dinner so he can have a few drinks. When he gets in these moods I have to pry for information but he won’t tell me. Given that we all have bad days, he usually is fine the next day and I let it go.

So, with my bf being out of town, I wanted to celebrate some of my accomplishments at work and I went out with my female friend to a bar he doesn’t like. I did not drink but I enjoyed getting my makeup on and just girl stuff. He has made a comment before about how he hasn’t met this friend but he encouraged me to go out anyways. When I gave him a call, he sent me to voicemail and texted me the above. I knew he was at a bar so I figured he was drinking and was joking.

It has now been 3 full days and I haven’t heard from him which is unlikely because he usually calls me 3-4 times a day like clockwork. I tried calling him twice on Sunday, no answer. I’m debating ending the relationship over this because I don’t think it’s fair and I don’t want to chase him. That being said I’m struggling because things have been great up until now (the last 6 months) and I’m bummed that he’s acting like this when he’s a great person to everyone else. I just don’t know what to do. I am wondering if I’m underreacting or overreacting because I’m considering this the end of our relationship and I haven’t tried to reach out to him further because i figure if he wanted to talk to me he’d call.

Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (98% confidence)

Top comment: “NOR - he is 40 and dating a 25yo... Because no woman his age would put up with this bullshit.

Just block him and forget about his existence. A 40yo writing "bye felicia" should be reason enough to leave.”

Notable explanation: “Any man that loves you wouldn’t speak to you that way. He has a lot of attitude for something seemingly minor, personally I’d dump his ass I don’t let anyone talk to me like that.

6 months into the relationship and now he is showing his true personality (which isn’t a catch) and his nitpicking and shitty behavior will probably get worse over time as he gets more comfortable being a total jackass to you. Honestly this is probably why he’s single at 40.

3 days without speaking to my partner (on their end) and they dont have a solid excuse (camping with no service for example) I’d assume from that point on I am single. If he cared he would have reached out or found a way.

So NOR, let it go. Let the relationship end. You’re young and better off. If he wasn’t so immature and truly cared he would make it work and stop picking unnecessary fights with you so really he is the one overreacting.”

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Originally shared by Xdhailey on r/AmIOverreacting on July 14th, 2026 at 6:12 PM UTC. Credit to u/Launchen and u/Expert_Can_7611 for the quoted comments.

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[help-my-relationship]

I (36 F) received this fb video from my bf (39 M) How would you interpret this?

Background my bf and I have been together for over 10 years. Over the last year or so we have been having some struggles with connection and communication. At the time he was working two jobs ( this isn’t new he’s worked a lot our whole relationship) and time was limited. I was understanding of this and didn’t push the issue of us not spending time together but somewhere along the way he would make time for everyone and everything else expected for me/us. Once I brought this to his attention he ofc deflected said that’s not what it is and I’m exaggerating. Even with clear examples he would tell me that’s not the case. This lead to many arguments. We eventually broke up and he moved out. After a few months he told me he wanted to work on the relationship and he finally realized my point of view how I wasn’t trying to fight with him but I was trying to fix the disconnect in our relationship. How he would create the time for friends and family or other activities but wouldn’t do the same for me. He said he wanted to go to counseling together. I agreed. He didn’t move back in but we began communicating more and seeing each more. Then a new pattern developed. He works Tuesday-Saturday 2pm - 11pm he no longer works the second job. It started to become that I would only receive few basic text ( good morning, wyd) from him during his working hours when he’s stuck at his computer. As soon as he is off work, before work or days off I will not hear from him. And he will go a week or more without calling or seeing me. If I were to call him he will not answer. I will bring this to his attention and it will get better for a few days then it goes right back to this. I have tried to explain to him how this push and pull makes me feel and now this is not helping rebuild the relationship. He just always has some excuse that he’s “too busy” So I pulled back I stopped responding to his text messages ( which all our communication really is) he got upset. We got into an argument . I tried one last attempt to tell him how his behavior is affecting me and our relationship. I sent him a long text basically telling him how I feel like an option and he only communicates when it’s convenient for him ( stuck at work) because he’s “too busy” outside of work. I tell him the needs that I have that are being neglected and all of this is not helping rebuild to rebuild our relationship. He replied with “ I will respond to all this once I get off work”. Of course I didn’t not receive a response. 16 hrs go by and all I get is this Facebook video of Steve Harvey. I did not respond to it. To me this is basically him saying “No” to my attempts to get love, connection and communication from him. What do you all take away from this video response? How do you interpret this as a response to expressing your needs of love, connection, and communication to someone? This was on Friday, Saturday Valentine’s Day all I got was a text that said Hi…. I still haven’t received any further response to my long message nor a phone call. Video linked

I'm not even gonna bother watching the video, and you should stop wasting your time trying to analyze whatever it is. Here are the facts:

Your partner didn't prioritize you, which led to breaking things off

Once broken up, your partner apologized and promised to work on things

You agreed to give it a second chance

Old patterns began repeating and your partner no longer communicates or prioritizes you

You call him out

He didn't respond and hasn't responded for days. You are asking for a discussion. Linking you a video is not a discussion; ergo, he hasn't responded. You not acknowledging the video is the best option. I do think you should feel free to let him know you're disappointed he's shutting down and refusing to engage again, and you can also let him know you're not 12 and you're not going to communicate via internet memes or whatever bullshit he's trying to pull. You want an in person discussion or it's over for good right here, right now

You need to decide how many chances you're gonna give him, especially when you're not seeing any long-term improvement.

[ramyeonpng]

Popular media demonizing someone as narcissistic and stonewalling when they're literally sensory and socially so overwhelmed they can no longer talk :/

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[saywhat-politics]

Minnesota Attorney General Says Trump Blocked State From Investigating ICE Shooting

Keith Ellison said federal authorities stonewalled his office hours after an ICE agent killed Renee Good.

Shortly after an Immigration and Customs Enforcement agent shot and killed Renee Good in Minneapolis on Wednesday, Minnesota Attorney General Keith Ellison heard something unusual was happening: Federal agents were not going to share their investigative file with their state counterparts.

“It was at least 24 hours before people started publicly saying it,” Ellison said, declining to outline exactly how he heard about the federal denial, which occurred after an initial agreement for the FBI to work with the state’s Bureau of Criminal Apprehension to jointly investigate the shooting. “We started hearing they’re not going to release it. They’re going to exclude state authorities from the bullets, the gun, the crime scene.”

[saywhat-politics]

FBI kicks local investigators off Renee Nicole Good ICE shooting probe

Lawyers are speaking out about the Trump administration's refusal to share investigative materials on the Minneapolis ICE shooting with loca

'This is what a cover-up looks like': Fury as Trump administration kicks local investigators off Renee Nicole Good ICE shooting probe

By JAMES CIRRONE, US NEWS REPORTER

Published: 10:15 EST, 10 January 2026 | Updated: 11:43 EST, 10 January 2026

Former prosecutors and criminal defense attorneys are speaking out about the Trump administration's refusal to share investigative materials on the Minneapolis ICE shooting with local authorities, calling the situation highly unusual.

State and local prosecutors in Minnesota say the FBI is stonewalling them. The FBI is leading the probe into the death of 37-year-old Renee Nicole Good, who was shot and killed in her car on Wednesday by an ICE agent.

'This is what a cover-up looks like,' Dan Gelber, a former federal prosecutor and Miami Beach mayor, told Axios. 

[therelationshiprecipe]

Stonewalling isn’t just giving someone the silent treatment. It’s shutting down completely: emotionally checked out, walls up, refusing to talk no matter what.

If your partner (or even you) has started doing this, it leaves the other person feeling isolated, frustrated, and helpless. Over time, it creates a chasm that’s nearly impossible to bridge.

Ignoring the problem doesn’t make it go away because it’s one of the fastest ways a marriage starts to collapse from the inside.

👉 I’ve broken down this and 16 other warning signs of a failing marriage. Check it out...