Enneagram 2
Need: To be loved.
Belongs to: Heart triad. The compliant heart triad that caters to others’ needs to fill their sense of pride and make themselves feel loved.
Kind, sweet and caring are one way to describe enneagram 2. However, something that a lot of people overlook when it comes to this type is their pride. It’s interesting because type 2s genuinely approach people and try to convince one to love them from a position of rejection and shame. However, on receiving love, to avoid rejection, they start taking pride in how others need them.
2s are also quite aggressive in how they try to attain love. In unhealthy versions, they can be extremely manipulative; they can guilt-trip you into providing them with the love they think they deserve by bringing up all the times they made sure you were loved and taken care of (if you notice, you can see how much pride they take in taking care of people and in people needing them)
Like the other heart types, 2s create a persona to navigate this world. This is the caring, motherly, “what would you be without me” version. They understand the manipulation behind giving and receiving love to the point that they can perfectly execute a version of themself that would be fit for loving. This persona of their would differ based on their dominant instinctual variant.
2s as children were rejected, so they taught themselves to earn love through manipulation and persona. This includes providing service, seduction, innocence, etc.
Wings:
2w1: The 2 that enjoys receiving and giving love “moralistically”. Along with rejection, they have this inner anger, which makes them mold their “love” to perfection. They also believe that they wouldn’t be able to convince people of their love if it isn’t for the right/good/perfect cause.
2w3: Being a double-image type, these types really really care about being loveable. Bit less moralistic, more concerned about self-image, have an essence of vanity that threes would have, but this would be more centered towards the amount of love they receive. Can have the “notice me senpai” feeling to them.
Subtypes:
Sp: Since this subtype is more about preserving oneself, the 2 in this case would go about trying to present a persona that can be protected and loved. They might portray themselves as this weak, cute, soft and caring person who will be loved because they’re harmless, and can be cared for.
Sx: They are your typical “dark femme”, “seductress”, “man eater” persona since they manipulate the sx attraction and make it something that can be used for being admired, loved and worshipped. Once merged, they would do anything to maintain that image of love that they initially displayed to their object of interest.
So: Your typical, mother-hen, goddess, savior. Will create an external structure or society that is built out of their persona of wanting to protect. However, like every other subtype, this “giving” stems from a lack of receiving, and from the hopes that on wanting to protect, they might find love.
One of the biggest misconception of enneagram 2 is that people believe that they’re self-sacrificing, kind, caring, etc. They assign 2 with these trait to depict how they receive love. We must remember that 2 belongs to the heart triad, who have concerns around shame and being accepted for who they are. Since it is all about shame and struggle with self-acceptance, your typical 2 is more likely to create a persona that they know will be loved. So try viewing 2s, or all the heart triads from a position of image. Yes, they might show love by doing everything for you, but they can also show love by being a strict ruler who treats her subjects as her kids (Daenerys Targaryen), by being the unattainable confident bad-ass who only serves herself, cause she loves the attention she gets (Maddy Perez), or by being the cute girl next door who wishes to be protected (Historia Reiss).
2s infact know what exactly they want and far-from sacrificing. So differentiate them from other types as someone who is concerned about obtaining love by creating an image that can be loved..
Common Mistypes: So 9, Sx 9, So 6, So 7, So 8
