I have 2 questions:
One is about the "main" defense mechanism of type 6 which is Projection. From what I've read it does make sense for it to be assigned to 6 because their main focus of attention is looking out for dangers, including the motives and intentions of other people to know who is potentially an "ally" or not. But I personally find it hard to imagine how it manifests in real time, the best example I could think of in my own personal experience is whenever I feel insecure or anxious, I imagine others around me as judging me or criticizing me hard in their minds. A common example I've read is apparently when you are angry but you see others as angrier than yourself, to which I'm quite confused with because what does that benefit 6s in projecting their own feelings towards others? How does Projection can overall look like anyways from an outside perspective?
The other question involves with wings. I've read somewhere before that one may use the strategies of their type's wings more first when the person feels more secure, comfortable or not too stressed out in a situation, but once it piles up and the issue becomes worse, that is when their core type's strategies and mechanisms come out. Apparently the reason for this is because the more unfamiliar a situation/environment is, or when the person becomes more stressed out or unhealthy, the more they fall back into their core type's main defenses and BS and therefore more fixated. Is that actually how it usually works? (at least for most people?), like an example being me (6w7) who does rely on rationalizing and cushioning bad experiences through positive reasoning and distracting to get through life, but when the stress piles up and patience is strained, the core 6 reactivity comes out and it looks like I've blew up for other people. Is that how it works usually?
Question 1: Your first example is a good actual way that projection presents itself in 6; it’s basically where the 6 takes its own insecurities and self-doubts or feelings and assigns them to other people, as if the criticism or judgment is coming from outside rather than inside their own mind. So yes, stuff like: “they are doubting me” (I am doubting myself), “they think I am incompetent” (I feel like I am dumb!), “they are up to something” (I am anxious that they might be up to something), etc.
I don’t know that the example of anger is a good one, although I would need to read the original context; I suppose if the 6 is fearful of a situation escalating, they might misread a mild sense of annoyance as something louder than it is. IF the 6 is repressing and denying their own anger, it would be because they would judge themselves harshly for being “too” angry (good people are not angry people, a 6’s super-ego inner voice might say), so they could deny being angry and insist that the other person is the one who is upset, to save face and to be in accordance with their “I am a good person” desire.
Projection in a 6 to a third party looks like them… being paranoid or insecure, insisting they know people’s motives (but it is all negative), etc. A 6w7 can also assume they know what people are up to, but waffle between negativity and optimism or giving them the benefit of the doubt, in order to stay attached. (They upset me, but I won’t allow myself to be upset about it, and I will assign pure motives to them.) But again, this depends on how many positive influences they have in their tritype and wings. A 6-8 will cut people off forever in a way that a 6-1 or a 6-9 is less inclined to do.
Question 2: I haven’t heard that theory, but it seems fair. A 6w7 who is at home, safe, and has all their needs provided for, is going to be pretty funny, light-hearted, interested in a wide variety of things, and able to make light of most situations in a way that is less likely when things go wrong, and out of stress, they start worrying or becoming intense. Most of the time, though, your wing is just a “flavor” on your 6. You’ll still be overthinking things, because that is your default, but you have an inner comedian who also likes to say stuff like “we’re all gonna die for sure” and laugh about it, because it’s tongue in cheek.
