#system fusion

[forestofthefelled]

A more personal piece this time around about fusion and in-system love. :} - Indigo🌷

[citrusfool]

is there a word to call alters that you're a fusion of/have fused with? I want to call them by a cute nickname it's so weird and clinical to me to just say "fused alters that are a part of me" or whatever :P if not i was thinking fuselets but that's not very creative pfffff

[sparks-theastronaut]

[spirefluxx]

I genuinely do not understand why some people get so weirdly hostile whenever a system says they want to become one person again.

Seriously. Out of all the things you could be upset about, somebody else's personal goals for their own mind is what sets you off?

I've seen people talk about wanting fusion, integration, final fusion, becoming singlet again, or just reducing separation between alters, and some of the reactions are honestly ridiculous. People act like the system just announced they're committing some horrible betrayal against themselves. Suddenly everyone has an opinion. Everyone wants to tell them they're making a mistake. Everyone wants to explain why they shouldn't want that.

Why?

Since when did other people's recovery goals become a community decision?

What bothers me most is how often the same people who constantly demand respect for their own experiences suddenly stop respecting other people's experiences the second they hear something they don't personally relate to. They'll preach acceptance, understanding, and autonomy all day long, but the moment a system says, "Actually, I want to become one person again," suddenly that acceptance disappears.

It's honestly hypocritical.

Not everybody experiences plurality the same way. Not everybody feels the same way about their alters. Not everybody has the same relationship with their system. Not everybody wants the same future.

Some people want to remain separate forever.

Some people want partial integration.

Some people want final fusion.

Some people aren't sure what they want.

And all of those are perfectly fine.

What I find especially frustrating is when people start treating fusion like it's some kind of death sentence. They'll talk about it as if alters are being erased, murdered, deleted, or destroyed no matter how the people involved actually feel about it. Meanwhile the system that wants fusion is sitting there saying they're happy, comfortable, and actively choosing it.

Why are strangers trying to be offended on their behalf?

You don't get to decide what somebody else's happiness looks like.

You don't get to decide what somebody else's healing looks like.

You don't get to decide what somebody else's future should look like.

If a system says they want to become one person again and they're making that decision for themselves, then that's their choice. It is their mind. It is their life. It is their experience.

The amount of fearmongering surrounding fusion sometimes genuinely feels unhealthy. Some people talk about it like it's the worst possible outcome when, for many systems, it can be a completely positive and fulfilling goal. Just because it isn't what you would want doesn't make it bad.

And honestly, I think some people have become so attached to the idea that plurality must always remain permanent that they've forgotten that personal autonomy exists. The goal shouldn't be making everyone choose the same path. The goal should be letting people choose the path that feels right for them.

A system wanting to stay multiple isn't wrong.

A system wanting to become one isn't wrong.

A system changing their mind isn't wrong.

A system being unsure isn't wrong.

What is wrong is acting like people owe you a specific outcome because it makes you more comfortable.

At the end of the day, nobody should be pressured into fusion, and nobody should be pressured away from it either. Both are equally important. People deserve the freedom to decide what they want for themselves without having random strangers turning it into a debate.

I just find it bizarre that some people claim to support system autonomy while actively getting angry when systems make choices they personally wouldn't make. If you truly believe people should have control over their own experiences, then that support shouldn't suddenly disappear the moment somebody's goals differ from yours.

Not every system wants the same ending to their story, and that's okay. The problem starts when people stop respecting that.

[cincinatti-system]

Wei have quite a few fragments... Wei wonder if it's a good idea to play matchmaker and see if any want to fuse together to become ✨a giant woman✨ (/ref)

Nothing against having many fragments but like. Sometimes wei feel sad that there are so many of us and not everyone gets time to like. Be themselves. Because front time and energy is limited.

...I'm gonna make a list >:)

[ratcorpse-collective]

i love it!

i love being a fusion. It's been such a positive experience for me and ever since my two parts fused I've been so much happier as a whole.

I feel more like "me" then I ever did as my two parts, I love who I am now and it's awesome!! One of my parts was only a partial alter so I...they never felt true enough for our system (even tho a lot of us are partial) but now I don't have that fear.

I'm a whole person now, well at least closer then I was before, if I went back in time I wouldn't change a thing I love being a fusion. And if another headmate wanted to fuse with me I'd honestly be up for it (under certain circumstances)

Anyways all I trying to say is I love that we fused to make me. Both my parts are happier as us..me..it's still confusing on how to refer to myself.

-🐩🔪

[butchoscar]

Anyway. Here’s your reminder to systems out there that you’re allowed to grieve fusions if an alter that you’ve known and grown close to and relied on for years is no longer who you knew. It’s hard, but it’s worth it to heal. ❤️‍🩹

[hoffmansdog]

Fusing is so so confusing. No one ever talks about it.

It’s so weird masking as “myself”. It feels like everything I do isn’t myself but it’s an old version of myself, one that barely exists anymore. He’s still here, I’m still here. I’m different, I needed this.

I’m me but not anymore. I’m hanging out with my friends but they’re someone else’s friends but they’re mine. They’re our friends.

But if I start to act like myself they’d be confused. When I do act like myself they think that my energy is off. That I sound sad, different. They pick up on it. It’s like I have to put on a constant mask. I’m not that person anymore but they need that person, but it’s still me. I’m still that person. Just different. I look different, I act different, but I remember everything I need to know. It makes me feel wrong. I feel like they liked the unhealthier version of myself. But I’m not healthy now either. I don’t get it.