LGBTQA 30 Day Challenge-Day 3
Day 3: Bisexuality - Does it exist? Explain your answer.
As I mentioned before, I believe that sexual orientation is a spectrum, some people reside at one end being completely straight, only being attracted to the opposite sex, whereas others reside at the other end being completely gay and only attracted to the same sex. I think those who are ‘true’ homosexuals or heterosexuals (were/are never attracted to the opposite or same sex respectively) are quite rare and the majority of people are found in the middle. Bisexuality, I believe, does exist but in varying degrees. If someone claims to be heterosexual but has been attracted to someone of the same sex at one point in their life, then I don’t believe they are a ‘true’ heterosexual found at the extreme end of the spectrum but possibly just one notch next to it, ever so slightly closer to the homosexual end. The closer to the middle of this ‘sexuality spectrum’ someone falls, the more equal the intensity of his or her attraction to both sexes.
Personally I don’t know whether to classify myself as bi because my attraction to men far, far, far outweighs my attraction to women. So I guess I would say I was straight with gay tendencies although there have been times where the intensity of my attraction to women has increased, just not to the point to overtake men.
As if by perfect timing I just watched a story on ‘This Morning’ about a guy who was married to his wife whom he absolutely loved and had 3 kids with and thought he was only ever attracted to women, until he stumbled across gay porn and realised that he was actually attracted to men. It seemed as though he didn’t even become bisexual or go through a transitioning phase of bisexuality, but more like one day he was only attracted to women, the next he was only attracted to men. I think within the space of a few years he was married again but to a guy. I know I said I believe that sexuality is very fluid, but I didn’t actually think it could be this drastic this quick. Wha’d’ya know apparently it can.