#the hydes

[justbwilde]

(Not) Welcome to our Family

Chapter 7: A Box of Emotions

[jacquelineshyde]

This might sound stupid but I didn't think anyone noticed that Hyde was abused? Obviously everyone knows he was abandoned, but I tried to google and I could find barely any fanfic or mention that he was really clearly abused by his parents! I feel sorry for him it's so sad. I wish they had have gone deeper with him, he's my favourite. But obviously it's a sitcom not a drama. Do you think the gang knows and just glosses over it or don't know the full extent of it because he never talked about it?

The fandom does know about it and there’s plenty of Hyde/Jackie fanfics, and some Hyde solo fanfics, that explore this, especially through his relationship with her and how this past my affect his relationship and possibility of being happy.

As for the gang, they knew. Like you said, this is a sitcom, not a drama, so it was never going to be explored, not in the time the show aired an the channel that created it. That said, we see his friends not reacting or quickly changing the subject the few times he mentions something, which leans me to believe they knew at least to some extent.

I do believe Kitty and Red, and Eric, knew way more than anyone else before he started to date Jackie. They are his foster family and know him pretty well to the point Red knew he won’t get Hyde to move with them unless he ordered it, Kitty (and Jackie) knew how to make him talk to W. B. and how important it was to him, and Eric knew there was something deeper going on for why he had came back to his place in season 4.

Jackie, thought, she was his girl for a long time and was the person he was more open to. She probably didn’t ask him directly about any of it, but we have to remember she is the one during season 1 constantly asking in a very soft tone about Hyde’s mom being an alcoholic and how this affect him. Particulary, I’m thinking of her and Kitty cooking together in season 1 when she talks about Hyde and his mom.

She knows shit. She is the one of their friends who mentions it and while most times it was played for laughs, it’s remarkable that she did. Because It’s Jackie, she was supposed to be shallow and not care, but she did. She always did.

[jacquelineshyde]

In The Good Son Hyde says: "You know, we never had waffles at my house, my mom always said a waffle iron was a luxury like pillow cases or not getting hit." Does that mean his mom hit him? It was obviously played for laughs but that's still really sad. Like if he didn't have waffles because it was a luxury, or pillow cases, that means he didn't NOT get hit because that was a luxury? Just watched that one and felt sad because I never realised before!

It is known by much that Hyde had a terrible childhood and even worse parents. His stepfather and mom were both alcoholics that didn’t love each other, and only thought him to suffer to the point he became close with/about his own feelings, making unable to express himself and what he is feeling to a better extent than what we see in the show.

Hyde was abused, and we know that his parents, not only his mom, probably hit him more than once. 

Granted, most of Hyde’s abuse is fandoms’ thinking what could it be since the show didn’t go deeper in his past. But thanks to clues in the show and his own personality, how he is, we can asume plenty of disturbing things that would explain his desdain for his mother and they way they speak to the other the one time she appears in season 1.

That said, yes, I believe she used to hit him. I believe his stepfather did, too. Hyde’s story with abuse goes beyond that, though. We are shown both his parents adandoned him and never provided for him, let it be because of they just didn’t have money or because when they had it, they prefered to nurture their addictions than to share with their own son tht was just a kid at the time.

Hyde’s past is sad, that’s why the fandom loves so much his relationship with The Formans, Eric, Donna, Jackie and later, his actual biological father and sister, W. B. and Angie.

[jacquelineshyde]

Steven Hyde and family, part 1 [Hydes]

Hyde has three families. He has the one he grow up thinking was his, the Hydes, then he got the Formans, and finally the Barnetts. I won’t be talking about the Formans because we see in the show a lot about them and well, the family he interacts with is the main we see.

This means I’ll be talking about the Hydes and the Barnetts. In this first post, I’m going to focus only in the Hydes + Edna’s family.

In several ocasions, Hyde mentions the kind of family he grow up. He was constantly abused by both his parents, both were alcoholic assholes that couldn’t care less about him. 

Bud, his stepfather, didn’t knew Hyde wasn’t his biological son, but mentions to doubt it in season 3 when, once Hyde sees him at the bar he has been working in, he is introduced as Hyde’s father and he says something among the lines of, “or that’s what his mother said”.

You can argue it was make for the laughs, but in context and seeing what happens at the end of season 6/beginning of season 7, we can assume Bud did suspect Hyde wasn’t truly his son.

Hyde’s relationship with Bud is painfull to look at. He left when Hyde was nine years old, an age most kids tend to look up at their parents, and for what we are told and what we can see, this affected little Hyde deeply. His anger when he finds out his father has been in Point Place for a year and hasn’t reach out to him is also an indicator of this.

Once he accepts to go with his dad, we can see that he is trying hard for their relationship to be “normal”, one of father-son like the one he has seen his friends, espcifically Eric, to have with their own parents. But once again, Bud abandons him. We know that relationship sucks.

Then, is Edna. 

Edna Hyde can be seen as one of the biggest turn points for Hyde. She is his mother and like any child, there was a time when Hyde loved her, he probably still does deep down. He understood at a young age that he wasn’t wanted and that his ma wasn’t exactly the best.

He used to take offense when someone trash talked his mother, even when we do know the nickname ‘gross Edna’ was well put and that she was just-- horrible. In a way, I feel like this is that way because Hyde still cares about his mother at that point, even when later that season she abandones him, too.

Edna leaving him changes everything. He goes to a better place but with a broken heart and crashed spirit. Hyde changes from season 1-2 because of inconscistent writing, but one can find subtext characterization in a shift between the moment he realized his mother had abandoned him and the rest of his life.

This relationship is rather complicated than just not good. It’s unhalthy and one sided, to put a level to it. And had Hyde the chance to comfront his mother, he may had been able to finally move on from her, the impact she had in his life, and else.

But he didn’t.

Most his trust issues come from seeing his parent’s marriage going to hell and them leaving him behind so easily like if he was nothing, a replasable object they couldn’t care about at all.

In the show, we are told Bud leaves Hyde again to get together with Edna. They leave together without telling him, without wanting him. Some fans don’t take this as canon, but for this meta and headcanon we will. And with this, I can only say that Hyde’s relationship with his parents suck.

What he mentions about the rest of his family is having an uncle in jail, and that the other two Stevens in his family are also in jail. Other than that, we know nothing.

The Hydes sound like an unlikely family, troublemakers that probably thought they didn’t have a future but to become criminals or something of the likes. This would explain why he thinks his future may lay on being in jail at some point, and also why other people seem to believe that (”we believe he may be the smartest guy on his sell block”, reads a report an actual teacher wrote of him in junior high).

We can say that his relationship with them isn’t good.

Now, my headcanons? Well, I share lots of these with my good friend Lisa (those70scomics / MistyMountainHop), so these may sound familiar to you all.

I have thought of an uncle from Bud’s side that cared about him and he had a good relationship with him. The man is still problematic in the sense that he also has an alcohol problem and probably will be up for a flash robbery, and so.

He has other uncles and aunts, mostly on Bud’s side. He doesn’t had many contact with Edna’s side because she had a bad relationship with them, but knows Edna’s older sister, who wasn’t that bad but still he never liked her that much.

Honestly, I’m more interested in the Barnetts, so be aware of that long ass post.

[jacquelineshyde]

★ and ☆ + steven hyde

★ - sad headcanon

Things weren’t that bad with his parents when he was little, before Edna catched Bud cheating on her. 

They weren’t the best parents either. He was still pretty much absent and Edna got distracted easily or didn’t put that much of disposition on stuff regarding motherhood. But it wasn’t that bad.

But once Bud’s shit was discovered, Edna started to change for him.

Hyde had to live the horror of having your beloved mother transform into a monster that slowly tears you apart. And he didn’t understood that until her was older.

☆ - happy headcanon

When he became a dad, he was scared as hell of fucking up and screwing his kid like his parents did to him. 

The normality of his days as a father comes as a surprise. It helps his nervouness and paranoid about swering up a lot the fact that he can sit down and watch Jackie carrying their kid around the kitchen, signaling things and calling them by its name because Mrs. Forman told them that will help the kid to develop his capacities faster.

He can see her came out with a song for his bath, a song for his meal, another to change the diaper, one more for sleeping and napping time. 

She takes their baby in arms and lays beside him on their couch, cuddling into his chest and sighs. He rounds her with one arm, resting his hand on her belly and looks at his baby making small noises and looking around, smiling to his mother and starting to laugh.

“Are you happy?” he asks out of nowhere one day.

“Of course!” she answers immediately, and he knows his kids are never going to get through that nightmare of his childhood.

[amandalynhyde]

So I just confirmed Hubby’s birthday gift (his birthday is next Monday). I’m bringing him to make our own rootbeer (we love rootbeer and are actually kind of snobs about it).

And I just paid for my anniversary gift for him! Traditionally, your first wedding anniversary gift is to be paper. I totally did a spin off of that, but the item I ordered is still paper :) I’ll keep you updated on that, but don’t want to ruin that surprise (just in case he decides to come looking at my blog).

[skindeepcomic]

A comic from 2007 about Alec Hyde and his father, Orville. His father is great.