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[novena-chanel]

DON'T LET YOUR FEAR BLOCK YOUR SUCCESS. Many fail and block their own blessings by worrying abouth the success, journey, and ideas of others. Instead of investing their time within cultivating and appreciating their own greatness. they sit still feeling threatened, or rush into new things in order to compete, out of fear of being left behind or out done. Some even stand in the way of others, or intentionally withhold information, with misguided belief that it somehow slows others down. Yet the only person they harm is themselves - be it a lost network or contact, a future competitor who will no longer consider them after the negative experience, or a door that will be closed in their face (Karma). So let me tell you this... YOU ARE ARCHITECT OF YOUR OWN FAILURE AND/OR SUCCESS What you think, becomes your reality. If you think someone is better than you, you in turn lessen yourself to support this belief.The same goes for fear of being left behind and failure... you create it.. Say it with me... "THERE IS ENOUGH FOR ME, FOR YOU, FOR THEM... I SUBSCRIBE TO AN ABUNDANCE MINDSET." With that said, I am wishing you a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations. From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach® - The Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Practitioner™ - www.novena-chanel.com / www.theequilibriumcoach.com #counsellor #psychotherapist #lifecoach #nutritionaladvisor #reikimaster #EquilibriumCups #theequilibriumcoach #personaldevelopment #thelawofattraction #movewithlife #mumprenuer #mumpreneurmovement #thegoalarchitect #abundance #abundancemindset #successmindset #business #life

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THE CATERPILLAR DID NOT REMAIN STUCK WAITING TO BECOME A BUTTERFLY. Too many of us are stuck; frozen and  overwhelmed by thoughts of the journey towards becoming the person we want to be. From losing old habits, to leaving people behind, and learning new things, the fear of change, and true sacrifice, is preventing you from growing your wings. What would happen to the Caterpillar if, instead of digesting itself (yes, it goes through what I can only imagine to be a terribly painful process before becoming the beautiful Butterfly we admire), it stopped and thought about the pain, discomfort, and demise during the process? Do you think it would still want to transform? Well would you? That is exactly what you are doing when you get detered by the hard work and process... You stop yourself from becoming a Butterfly who flies. YOU HAVE TO LET GO OF THE OLD UNHELPFUL PARTS OF YOU TO BECOME THE BETTER YOU. Let yourself Fly! With that said, I am wishing you a blessed and productive weekend ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations. From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach® - The Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Practitioner™ - www.novena-chanel.com / www.theequilibriumcoach.com #counsellor #psychotherapist #lifecoach #nutritionaladvisor #reikimaster #EquilibriumCups #theequilibriumcoach #personaldevelopment #thelawofattraction #movewithlife #mumprenuer #mumpreneurmovement #thegoalarchitect #thecaterpillar #thebutterfly #novenachanel

[novena-chanel]

For many, consciously and unconsciously, they live, relive, and pass on generational wounding and patterns. Each new generation playing out a family cycle, each struggling with, or having to work through, an inherited mindset, way of relating, and circumstance.

From the way they go into discipline their children, to the types of relationships they enter, to their own mental health, each generation carrying and unrolling the family cycle.

How many have witnessed or heard of a Great-Grandmother who had a turbulent relationship with her daughter, then creating the same patterns within her own relationship with her daughters, who then, despite wanting different, then pass the dysfunction down through the family relationships? We then have four generations of women who know nothing else except inconsistency, poor communication, and wounding.

How about a Grandfather who was detached emotionally (or physically absent) from his Son, who then births a “normality’ of detachment - be it physical detachment and absence from the family, or mental and emotional. Thus unconsciously or consciously, teaching a Son to also become a detached and absent Father.

I have seen generations of single parent families within one family unit, just as I have seen generations of poor communication, competition, and jealousy within others. Each generation recreating a pattern of living and being.

If you really want to begin breaking negative family cycles, you need to start by identifying and exploring the root. Like a weed - often rather than not, treating the attachment from its root, begins ending the growth.

Start with creating a Family Constellation - like observing a map of stars, family constellations maps relationships within the family unit, and the conscious and subconscious impact.

Unsure how to begin? Contact me and let’s do the work together at www.theequilibriumcoach.com.

You deserve the opportunity to begin breaking generational patterns.

From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach® - The Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Practitioner™

#familyconstellations #familytreework #innerchildwork #familytherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #theequilibriumcoach

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Join me for a LIVE 30-minute Coaching Slice on Tuesday 27th June 2017 at 7pm (GMT) where we talk about the art of effective communication. Do you find yourself constantly repeating yourself, or being cut off in conversations? Does your partner or child ‘shutdown’ during conversations? DO YOU TRULY LISTEN, OR JUST HEAR WHAT IS SAID?

In this age of instant everything, from food delivery apps to instant messenger and the ‘swipe left’ dating/hook-up culture, many of us have forgotten (or never learned) the art of communication and connection. To effectively connect we have to actively and mindfully listen to the other, without constant interruption or assumption. How often do you listen to a friend, partner, child, or colleague, without interrupting, asking questions before they have finished, or rushing them to the point?

TRUE CONNECTION IS THE DESIRE TO UNDERSTAND, WITH THE RESPECT TO BE PATIENT. Join me on Facebook Live on my page @novenachanel (Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach™ - www.facebook.com/novenachanel) on Tuesday 27th June 2017 at 7pm (GMT). Until then, I am wishing you a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations. From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach™ - The Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Practitioner - www.novena-chanel.com. #theequilibriumcoach #lifecoach #counsellor #couples #couplegoals #relationships #theartoflistening #activelistening #communicationskills #communication #novenachanel

[novena-chanel]

A lot of things in your life aren't happening because you are waiting to be motivated. Motivate yourself. One of the reasons I specifically ask when contacted to speak at events if there will be 'Motivational Speakers', is because I need to ensure that a conversation is had with Organizers to ensure that I too am not listed as one. Now I am not saying Motivational Speaking does not have its place; Lord knows sometimes it's after hearing someone tell their story, or giving you the 'Pep Talk' that gets your butt in gear. However, for me, one of the issues with motivation is that when it is externally found, it runs out and is built upon a need-and-supply process. You need it to temporarily fire yourself up... until running out of fuel again. So I say find the motivation within, but most importantly, do not wait until you do... JUST GET UP AND DO IT ANYWAY! The motivation will kick in once you are in the process of doing it. Today I got up, put on my running trainers, made a protein shake and grabbed the dog lead, before hesitation, doubt, fatigue, or waiting to be called by others to 'Just Do It'... I decided to find the motivation during the process of 'doing'. Find yours while 'doing'. With that said, I am wishing you a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations and brings a beautiful day of Self-Care and doing. From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach® - The Mind, Body, Life Practitioner

[novena-chanel]

Happy Self Care Sunday! Think you have nothing to wear today? Right now you have one of the most priceless, tailored, fitted, unique, and powerful things to put on, that fits YOU, perfectly. Yes, you probably guessed it! It's your SMILE ☺️😊. A sincere smile can disarm the coldest of hearts;
a sincere smile can light a dampened flame;
a sincere smile can open up a discussion;
a sincere smile can be the start of a beautiful friendship; a sincere smile was what brought my Grandparents together... and look at the legacy of children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren that created. 
Besides, a smile looks so beautiful on you. It all started with a smile 😊. With that said, I'm wishing you a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations, and allows your smile to shine. From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach™® (The Goal Architect™)

[novena-chanel]

After a thoroughly refreshing lunch of Coriander, Cucumber, Red onion, Tomato and Olive Oil Salad (recipe on my website), I’ve decided to put Coriander in the spotlight for my Herb of the Week #NCsHerbOfTheWeek

Did you know?

Coriander, also known as Cilantro, can be eaten fresh, dried, in its seed form, and ground, with just two tablespoons of ground coriander seeds providing 1.2 grams of protein, 5.6 grams of carbohydrates, 4 grams of fiber? Not impressed? Well keep reading…

It also packs 68% of our daily Vitamin K needs, 10% of Iron, 8% of Calcium, and 4% of Vitamin C.

Not sure about the uses of vitamins and minerals in the body? Go over to my website for a neat breakdown of each vitamin, its use, the foods that contain them, and the average daily requirement, at http://www.novena-chanel.com/know-your-vitamins/

There’s also added health benefits such as:

RICH IN CAROTENOIDS BETA-CAROTENE AND BETA-CRYPTOXANTHIN (supports the prevention of cancer).

Due to the antioxidant properties, dietary carotenoids found in Coriander can support the decrease in conditions such as eye disease, and several cancers.

A study was published in Plant Foods for Human Nutrition reporting the finding that Basil and Coriander contained the highest levels of the carotenoids beta-carotene and beta-cryptoxanthin.

ANTI-INFLAMMATORY PROPERTIES Due to its anti-flammatory properties, Coriander is good for inflammatory disease such as arthritis.

SKIN COMPLAINTS The antioxidant, antifungal, antiseptic, and disinfectant properties are great for assisting in clearing up skin complaint such as fungal infections, dryness and eczema.

There’s loads more benefits so don’t be shy, research, research, research - #eattolive.

Cheat Sheet Tip:

I love adding fresh herbs in my cooking (it gives it a richer taste), but sometimes keeping fresh herbs is not practical. So why not keep your fresh herbs in a glass container in the fridge? As you can see from my picture, I keep some fresh clippings in an airtight jar, in the fridge 👍🏾. #freshherbs

[novena-chanel]

A part of being successful in what YOU DO KNOW, is taking the time to learn about other ways of living, and things YOU DO NOT.

I offer couples therapy to a vast amount of families, but an area I need more knowledge on is the art of celibacy within these relationships, and finding tools of encouragement to fully support them.

It does not have to be about religion or culture, simply respecting other’s truths and ways of experiencing the world.

So today I sit reading a book I’ve been itching to get my hands on after watching the couple on @supersoul being interviewed by @oprah 🙌🏾 - a truly inspiring and thought provoking discussion. The Wait by @megangood and @devonfranklin. If you can delay gratification in the area of intimacy, practicing patience, planning, and overcoming the urge to impulse buy, spend and react, becomes easier.

Have a great day lovelies. Xx

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