Jenna I don't know if it's a full bull (BLEEP) card because this is in character for them. This is just where their relationship is making me a little crazy. But herein lies the problem. In this scene, Jim says, This was my decision to come back. Okay? I'm not going to resent you. This was my decision. That's everything you need to know. This is their problem. He decided to start the business, and now he's decided to give up the business. Why are they not making decisions together? And I am losing my mind.
Angela He bought a house.
Jenna Yes. I remember hearing this amazing advice very early on about decision making in marriage. And this is what I want to say to Jim and Pam. When you're at odds over something, but you reach a compromise or you do eventually make a decision, that decision is not complete until you both agree to take responsibility for the decision. So later on, if something goes wrong, you can't be like, See, I knew it. Or like, Well, that was you. You're the one who wanted it.
Angela Yeah. No, I told you so's.
Jenna None of that. Whatever the consequence is, we both made it. And if Jim and Pam had made the decision together to start this business and they took mutual responsibility for how that decision played out, we'd be in a very different situation right now. If Pam was unhappy with that decision, too bad because you made that decision together, you're going to have to tough it out, Pam. That was a mutual decision. These are the consequences of your mutual decision. But all that happens is Jim makes decisions. But Pam is like letting this happen, too. You know what I mean? Like, she just sort of like.
Angela Well, she's got to be more vocal. And he's got to stop making decisions without her.
Jenna Yes. Thank you. Mug down. Thank you for hearing me.
