There’s something so frustrating about being non-binary. I feel like we’re still ‘trapped’ inside of the gender binary.
Like if you’re AFAB you feel pressure to be more masculine or ‘trans masculine’ to ‘appear non-binary’ so that you feel valid. It’s obnoxious. Like people won’t see you as ‘valid’ if you present as feminine. Likewise, if you’re amab, you feel like you have to present as more traditionally feminine. It’s seriously aggravating. Like how can I present as me and still feel like people are SEEING that I’m non-binary? In other news, it’s been forever since I’ve been on tumblr. ALSO, I am wearing non-binary pronoun pin to work! Yay! I work at a Starbucks and was already wearing my they/them/theirs pin on my apron, but more recently I started wearing this little heart pronoun pin I got that says “THEY THEM” on it to my teaching job! Yay!
I was really nervous at first but now I feel good that I’ve been doing it. I also put my preferred pronouns in my email signature. A lot of teachers will put things like their name and then what department they’re in, what school they work at, etc. So I just put my name, ‘long term substitute,’ and my pronouns. My counselor was pretty pleased with that and that I also came out to my parents! It was... okay. I feel like my mom didn’t really understand? It had to be over the phone because my bf had COVID. (I had two tests and was negative - thank you, God!) My dad didn’t say much - it was on speakerphone. My mom was like ‘Well you know you can be any kind of woman you want to be,’ etc. She tried. Oh well, right? I’m old enough that it doesn’t matter so much if they don’t get something. I live with my boyfriend and he’s supportive, so it’s all good. I mean technically my mom is supportive, she just doesn’t seem to understand. Oh well! The point is, I came out, lol.
