#things im learning

[covveycrow]

your best changes every day. it’s okay, let it. as long as you continue to try, you’re best is good and valid, and i’m proud of you for trying.

even if your best is just waking up today, i am so proud of you.

[magnificent-north]

writing pro tip

sometimes, just switching the order of a few sentences fixes it

[galexeh]

it’s okay to end relationships that are really unhealthy. it’s okay to not feel okay after you do end things. it’s okay for things to take time. it’s all okay.

[archived-account-bb]

Insecure men are a liability. Same with unhealed men.

[mindthewitch]

the only measure of true love is the reaction to the potential of true loss

[beammeupmoony]

I'm learning that grief comes in waves. And it is unpredictable.

[heyimjustwandering]

You don’t have to punish yourself for wanting to be free but you do have to be intentional about it.

[relativelyanonymousgirl]

things im learning

god. Pride is a hard one isnt it? Ive never really considered it a vice. But our society really empasizes pride on achievements, rather than hard work. I say do both. Appreciate the hard work ALWAYS and if you happen to also get good results, hey, another reason to throw a party lets go! But if you focus only on the achievements then hello fear of failure and perfectionism, which let me tell you, is not your friend.  So I decided to start a blog, which is something I had been low-key, very very low-key been thinking about for some time now and I was listening to the smart-twenties podcast, now called the perfectionism project and she (sam laura brown) made me feel like starting a blog was gonna help me a lot with my growth and healing and she’s all about perfectionism and told her story about taking years and years to really starting her blog because of her perfectionism and fear of failure. Obviously i didnt want that. One of the things i have learned/have been learning is that creativity is an adventure, it’s something you are ALWAYS bad in in the beginning and you cant just theorize yourself out of it. You gotta make a lot of bad shit first. So i was like, aight, lets make some bad shit and find my voice. But then I made the previous two posts and i was like damn. They’re shit from a blog perspective, but they are core ideas of me and they’re good shit, you know what i mean? Theyre good building blocks for finding my voice. But then even though im producing shit, i can feel the perfectionism creeping in like, i want my next shit to also be good shit and not bad shit and damn. Even when youre doing all the right things she still shows up at the party.

oh well, lets not go all parents of sleeping beauty on her and just welcome her and deal with her in a way that makes the both of you feel good. you cant just turn bad feelings away, they gon kick you in the ass. You need to address them. So welcome, perfectionism, I’m sure there are things you can teach me and help me grow.