I've been rewatching some episodes of Steven Universe, and something stood out to me.
Pearls aren't just... servants. They're much closer to the broad idea of "companions." Also the show (I think) was originally pitched to Adult Swim before ending up on Cartoon Network, so there are a lot of social dynamics that are only implied rather than explicitly explained.
The relationship between Pink Pearl and White Diamond is left pretty open to interpretation, but I've noticed that many fans portray it as inherently traumatic. Personally, I see it differently.
To me, Pink Pearl's trauma is rooted in Pink Diamond, not White Diamond. Before becoming Rose Quartz, Pink Diamond was impulsive and often destructive, and Pink Pearl herself mentions that Pink's outbursts were frequent.
White Diamond, on the other hand, is portrayed as deeply condescending because she sees herself as perfection. So, in her eyes, wouldn't Pink Pearl have seemed like the perfect Pearl? Gentle, obedient, endlessly patient, and completely loyal to her Diamond despite the ab*se she endured.
I'm not saying White asked for Pink Pearl's consent—the series clearly suggests she is not gentle when taking others control. But I do think White would have treated a Pearl who fulfilled her purpose so flawlessly with far more composure than she showed toward the other Diamonds or the Gems she viewed as rebellious.