#thisisfostercareagain

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Anyone else believe in divine intervention?

I don’t really know what else to call it. Met Lamby’s grandparents. Not only are they wonderful, and we clicked right away, but grandpa knew my husbands dad that died 13 years ago. He met my husband when he was 16 and they remembered each other.

Grandpa knows his daughter has issues with him, and he’s ok with it. He wants her to get help and has had to get tough with her. He paid for an apartment for 90 days after she gave birth and found rehab for her. Told her they’d help in anyway they could and she had a place to live with the baby if she sought help actively. There’s a lot of history there and he blames himself some I think .

They are approved to be involved, have for visits/overnights so they have every intention of being very involved grandparents. We are traveling next month and they have offered to take her for the weekend so we can do more with the boys while there.

So many people say “oh, they are just going to take her when the hard stuff is done”. My response is “so?, what if they do?”. They know they can’t do it right now, but this gives her the chance to bond with her family! Am I wrong? Isn’t the goal of foster care to have these kids know their families as long as it’s safe/appropriate? There are so many ways this could go, but I’m trying to make sure it goes as smoothly as possible.

Bio mom is going to be unavailable for awhile,and we are all hoping she will be clean when she comes out. She’s a very smart, loving person and I’m rooting for her.

Unfortunately bio dad isn’t seeking involvement :(

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Here we go again

Our license will be reopened again soon. There are so many kids in need always, and it’s pulling at me again. We have an amazing support system, more than enough room, and definitely have love for the kids and their families .

Our age and gender is limited because of bedroom situations, so we are only open to girls 2 and under. That makes me sad because I love my boys, and totally wouldn’t mind adding more to our crazy.

I worry of course, about upsetting the calm(sort of) we have going on right now, and how the kids will feel about the in and out of Kids in our care. We will never know til we try, and if we can help even just one more family, it’s worth it.

The biggest need here is for NAS newborns, so I’m not looking forward to lack of sleep , but like the saying goes “ I can sleep when I’m dead”.

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Oh foster care....need opinions

We’ve been officially asked to adopt baby, and potentially baby’s unborn sibling. We’ve said yes to baby, and because I feel siblings should be together if at all possible we’ve said yes to possible baby (I say possible because it’s still early), but no more after that. We will keep contact and do visits without issue with any future kids, but because bio is so incredibly young we can’t agree to keep taking kids. My hope is that she gets services away from this town and all of her triggers.

I know there’s a loving person inside that tough shell. She seeks out the wrong kind of attention unfortunately. Somewhere along the line someone devalued her importance in this world, and she uses her body to seek what she needs. My mom heart hurts for her, but I know that she’s not capable of parenting at this point in her life. I’m praying/sending out positive vibes daily for her.

Now for the opinions- we are Caucasian & Boo’s ethnicity has been cited as Hispanic& undetermined (I’m pretty sure she’s Hispanic on both sides ). How do we make sure she grows up culturally supported ?

I have hispanic relatives, but they don’t have any traditions they follow related to the Hispanic culture. I probably have more knowledge then they do 😉. Ironically, my boys bio aunt Is Hispanic/white and she does participate in some Hispanic traditions. She’s super sweet, and helpful. Is it ok to lean on her or will it cause more confusion for the boys? As far as I’m concerned, they are part of our family but it’s so hard to navigate!

So how do I do this?

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Two more tiny feet in our home

4 month old girl - “Boo”. This is going to be a long case I’m thinking. So much I’ve never dealt with before. She’s healthy, happy, and adjusting great so far.

First visit with us as baby’s FP was supposed to be today, but her mom (also in Care ) has run away from her group Home. She got to see Boo last week for an hour with the CW, and knows that she’s in a new home. Before that, both Boo and mom had been in the same foster home. The previous FP kicked mom out, and kept Boo . I’m still in the dark as to why she was kicked out. Mom did try to return there to take Boo, and some violence ensued, so that was the reason Boo was moved.

CW said she was happy to see her, and that made me so hopeful for today. I was looking forward to being able to meet mom and try to build a relationship with both of them. I’m hoping that’s still a possibility. This baby is all she has left of her family.

We have good residential teen parent programs here, and the hope was to be able to get her into one. Due to her behaviors at the last placement,and unwillingness to care for Boo, a typical foster home is not allowed for safety reasons.

She’s so young, my youngest biological child is older than her. My heart hurts for her, she’s just a child herself. Hopefully she returns, maybe she just wanted to see friends for New Years. I hope that’s the case, and that she’s not just gone.