The Dark Side of Marriage According to Astrology
The other day I was watching a vid from a Vedic astrologer that I'm very much into. He was talking about marriage and its timing techniques, and how much he disliked the whole topic because, more often than not, he had to tell very ugly truths that many of his clients hated or were deeply disappointed to hear.
He explained that, in the first place, there are times in which marriage is not even meant to happen in a person's life (on a positive note, let's remember that no marriage is NOT the same as no romantic relationships / think of the differences between the 5th and 7th houses). Second, for many of us, getting married before turning 30 —or around our first Saturn return— will nearly always guarantee divorce at some point in time. And third: sometimes, people are meant to be in highly damaging and disturbing relationships with their spouses, because it's part of what they are here to learn. There's no way around that one. It's definitely not an easy pill to swallow!
"People forget that marriage is one of the most karmic —and sometimes challenging— elements in a birth chart," he explained.
Isn't that so true? We know karma is a real bitch sometimes, so... what happens when we wed it? LOL. Let's hope that we all find for ourselves a nice and decent gentleman or lady as a fair pay for our noble deeds. But if it's not the case, I guess the good news is that, if we're in the middle of a shitty marriage, it means we are successfully releasing our past baggage. It could be that later in life, after we learn our heart wrenching lessons, we stumble upon our dream come true. It could also be in our next life, tough. But we still can enjoy good sex, tons of laughter and amazing company without having to sell our soul to a list of binding clauses in the meantime.
Because, let's remember that wedding someone is not the same as loving someone. That someone wants to marry us does not mean they actually love us. And, on the other hand, if you're happily married, my heart is excited for you! Please take care of it, cherish it and enjoy it as much as you can. Know that it's one of your gifts for this lifetime, and your soul deserves it a 100%!
As a closing thought, I believe It'd be really good for our mental health to stop romanticizing cultural aspects of our society that may end up in horror stories. Whether we choose to marry or not —regardless of being astrologically fit or unfit for it—, I think the moral of the story is to choose loving ourselves first and foremost, because this is how we may begin healing ourselves and help others do the same. Because if working with karma is not healing, then what is it? In the process, we may attract our soulmate and have our happily-ever-after, or, maybe, we might discover that our existence holds equal or more fulfillment than someone who's married without this figure in our lives.
Whichever the case, let's love, anyway. First ourselves, and then others... freely, unconditionally, without the need to call someone ours or us theirs legally. We never are, anyway. 💗
Thanks for reading!
By @soberpluto












