Tarot Tips: How To Spot Situationships
Hi ppl! Here's a little piece of info on "complicated" relationships.
I often see this mix of cards when a relationship looks unlikely to pass to the next level...
Major Arcana
The Fool (reversed): for important reasons, your POI is not ready to start something new with you, even if they wanted to.
The Lovers (reversed): can point to a lack of harmony or difficulty making a clear decision about the relationship. It also indicates that something is preventing the connection from solidifying into a healthy, well-defined bond.
The Hierophant (reversed): They are comfortable without formal relationship labels. It's possible they don't believe in marriage or serious romantic relationships. This is tough to change because it's a belief system, not just an opinion.
The Hermit: of course this card appears when your POI doesn't want to take things too deeply. It's not a big NO, but for the time being, they're good on their own.
Justice (reversed): even though this card is more relatable to cheating scenarios, it also suggests that you're in an unequal relationship. Important decisions are being avoided for one's own benefit. Because the sword represents truth and fairness, upside down it can mean foul play and warns about karmic retribution.
The Hanged Man: another obvious card... they are too cool with their lack of action towards you. And if you're hoping for a change of heart, be very patient, because they won't shift views quickly.
Death: If the reading looks "good" this card could be a powerful omen for new beginnings, but if it's not, it could reflect the need to end things for good with your POI. If upside down, it shows that someone is not ready to embrace a new cycle... they're still dragging feelings for someone from their past.
The World: kind of similar to Death's energy, but heavier in its signification. If upward: you can be certain that things are energetically done between you. If upside down: a chapter in their life is not over... until this happens, there's no room for you.
Minor Arcana
Any Ace reversed: when an Ace comes upside down, it means that the person is not interested or wanting a new beginning, especially the Ace of Pentacles.
Any Page reversed: these scream immaturity. Upright they are not bad omens, but reversed they may be telling you that your person is not taking things seriously enough or is not prepared for a formal commitment. They behave in childish ways.
Two's reversed: they show hesitancy and on / off dynamics. Many times I see 2 of Pentacles appear when people are dealing with several relationships at the same time.
3 of Swords: if you're asking about your POI's feelings for you and this card shows up, it's telling you that you will be heartbroken and disappointed. It reveals cheating and painful separations.
3 of Cups reversed: usually it indicates outside people interfering with the connection, and can reflect a casual “friends with benefits” scenario that never transitions into a committed relationship. Harmony and joy won't be part of the equation.
4 of Pentacles: they want the status quo to remain the same / they will not step out of their comfort zone.
4 of Wands reversed: they are certainly not interested in commitment.
5 of Swords: this is one of the scariest for me! It indicates lack of honest communication, danger and player types. They could be holding back true intentions, and may have sinister agendas.
5 of Pentacles: this can be tricky because it may show their insecurities around rejection, but it could also mean that they're about to leave you hanging dry or ghost you. They are giving it up.
6 of Pentacles reversed: in my readings, this shows up in situationships a lot! It's similar to Justice reversed, but with the catch that the exchange of physical resources or things of value is unfair; you have to beg for the crumbs and they are holding the upper hand consciously.
9 of Pentacles: they feel very good about being single and independent. It's not a bad card to get, but it shows that your person may value their freedom a bit too much.
Reversed court cards: as I've said in previous posts, these are dangerous to deal with. If they come upside down, the cards are telling you that you should not trust them. Pay extra attention to Wands and Cups suits, they can be really charming and appealing but they are likely to hurt you.
Extra tips
Analyze the whole spread and sense the overall energy. A situationship will be revealed if:
Most of the cards do not symbolize forward movement, stability or emotional fulfillment
There's little to no upright Pentacles and Cups
There's a dominance of Wands
You get several of the cards I just described
As always, intuition will tell you the ultimate diagnosis. These are just some of my insights after some years of performing readings.
Thanks for reading, hope you enjoyed it!
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By @soberpluto











