Things that are not helpful to say to a [female] martial artist/black belt
"I'm not going to mess with you now!"
"I guess I'd better take you seriously now!"
"Your husband better watch out!"
"Watch out Nick!" (who tf is Nick? I know many of them but have no idea why this person said that to me and who they meant.)
"I guess I'd better be nice to you!"
"Can you come whoop my husband?" ( steak and shake waitress, meaning it as a hilarious joke.)
You should be respectful of everyone and do your best to be kind to everyone... Nothing magically happened when my belt color changed. I didn't become more worthy of respect or gain more skills. Same me, same martial artist, still learning and gaining skills. Lastly, I'm not sure what weird form of sexism it is to imply that because I do something that kind of involves self defense that the men around me need to "watch out."
I know some of these are said to all martial artists, but I think some of the nonsense is female-specific (but maybe guys get comments like "I bet your wife feels safe").
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