#tpe relationship

[fhear-mor-tpe]

Empty your mind.

Doesn’t all the thinking hurt your fragile little brain? Find an owner to take the stress away and allow you reach your full potential as a sex object

[memyselfandi13531]

kinda inspired by this post by @creamsiclemelt and also by the tpe posts by @mybloodstream-caffeine

recently have been thinking about hollanov and their dynamic and the whole Total Power Exchange of it all. as in, shane is giving his sexual power and autonomy to ilya, but ilya isn't giving his sexual power and autonomy to shane. so like. ilya can make as many rules as he wants, make shane do whatever he wants (and shane will like it) but shane can't tell ilya what to do ever (only inside the bounds of their sexual relationship of course he can safeword). ilya can punish shane whether he did something wrong or not, but shane can never punish ilya, no matter how mean or irrational ilya is being.

i've been thinking about ilya proving this to shane. small or grand actions that he takes every once in a while to make sure that shane knows that ilya can do whatever he wants to shane and shane would just have to take it. it's not every day, that would beat the point. it's just, well, whenever he wants. thinking about ilya promising shane orgasms, but changing his mind at the last minute and leaving shane sobbing and desperate. thinking about ilya making shane get up to do various difficult unnecessary tasks for no other reason or use other than ilya wanted him to, then making him undo all his work. thinking about ilya asking shane what he wants (whether it be a sex position or what movie they watch) and then not doing it. thinking about ilya forcing shane to eat a mcdonald's meal while eating one of shane's brown rice, chicken and broccoli meals right in front of him. thinking about him making shane say thank you for forcing him to eat it. thinking about ilya fucking shane in a position he doesn't like, but making him like it. thinking about ilya deciding to come up with a random rule for shane, just so he can punish shane for breaking it because he just looks so pretty when he cries. thinking about shane, confused and angry and so so turned on, trying to reason with ilya and getting punished for talking back.

shane can be the best, most obedient and helpful super sub in the whole wide world, but it'll never stop ilya from doing shit like this. because this really isn't about punishment. it isn't about shane being good or bad (though that is a part of it). it's about power. the only person with power in this dynamic is ilya. the only thing that matters is what ilya wants. what shane wants isn't even on the table. and this, ironically enough, is what brings shane the most comfort. since his choices and desires don't matter and ilya will do whatever he wants anyway, he can just let go and trust ilya to take care of him in the aftermath. no more thinking, no more decisions. just letting go and letting ilya guide him through life. it's the most at peace he's ever been.

[cloistered-collecton]

I want to name you.

Everyone has a name, either something chosen for you, or chosen by you. They are the thing that the world knows you by, the shorthand for your entire personhood, the catch all descriptor of who you are. They are wonderful, beautiful, useful things.

So let me take the name you have, and turn it into a lie. Let me take that descriptor, that thing that all the world says is you, that you say is you, and make that saying into falsehood. Let me turn the thing you show people first into a mask.

Let me learn you so fully and so deeply that I can decide the word that means you. Give me so much power over your identity that you let me take the name you hold in your heart and replace it with one that I decide fits better.

Then let me keep it, secret and private, just for us. Let your new name, the one I decided was you, be our secret. Take the old indicator of who you were and wrap it around yourself like armor, protecting the self that I defined for you.

And when we are alone, let me pull that armor from you, take the mask from your face, and call you by your name. Let me speak the word that says I know you, the self that I decided was real, hidden under all the parts I decided weren't.

Let me name you, let me define you, and love me for it.

[stupidsluttystoner]

even the lightest touch of my nipples is enough to shut my brain off completely

[bruisesinlace]

i need a man to control everything in my life.

- what i eat

- what i wear

- when i go to sleep

- if i’m allowed to go out with friends

anything in my life, i want him to control it

[dumbass-writer]

Is this a safe space to talk about TPE hollanov… both with soft dom and mean dom Ilya because I think he flips between spending hours coaxing orgasms out of Shane with body worship and letting Shane have his enrichment (cockwarming) but also will flip by being mean to Shane and bullying him in bed with verbal and physical humiliation (his goal is to make Shane cry actual sobs and then mock him for crying while licking up the tears) but specifically in a tpe dynamic I think they do free use where no matter what Shane has to wake Ilya up with a blowjob each morning and Ilya is always allowed to just grope him nonchalantly, he takes soooo much pleasure in getting Shane hard right before he has to do something just to walk away without a word and my Shane isn’t allowed to get off without permission no matter what even if they’re apart or even just forcing orgasm after orgasm out of Shane right before he has to leave for an event or meeting so he’s still kinda hazy and out of it and on the edge of needy but still in sub space just not enough to drop out or let it get in the way of Task and then coming back to aftercare with Ilya that may or may not include sex but is for sure a million kisses for being such a good boy

[fhear-mor-tpe]

This is your place

[lthrcigarbull]