#trans gatekeeping

[dikleyt]

Trans gatekeeping relies on a false certainty over who is really trans and who isn't

It gives definitive answers, sorts all trans people into whether or not their transition is going to be in their best interests

But this certainty is completely baseless and has never held up to scrutiny

[daveisverydeactivated]

hot take but like. the policing of nb peoples language is an incredibly harmful form of gatekeeping

[robotgirldisc]

Kinda fucks me up how trans people can be hit with comphet from both sides

When I was 6, I was not capable of attraction yet, but I mentioned a friend who was a girl like twice in front of my parents, and since they thought I was a boy, my dad immediately decided I had a crush on her. He teased me about it so much that I eventually started believing it. It made interacting with her as a friend really scary and uncomfortable at times.

When I got older and started questioning if I had feelings for boys (in retrospect, I think my "gay awakening" was actually being exposed to the consept of trans women, without getting the needed vocabulary to really process that, but that's a story for another time) I realized my earlier crushes on girls had been Off, so I dismissed it all as comphet, and started identifying as a gay boy

That sure threw me for a loop when I got an actual crush on that friend a couple of years later. I switched over to bi

I'm skipping over a lot here, but fast forward to when I was talking to the gender specialists. They were much more gatekeep-y here 6 years ago than they are now, and I ended up getting rejected for treatment for a nimber of reasons, some of them valid (I wasn't out to anyone, and showed few signs of intending to come out) aome of them less so (I identified as bi) their definition of what a trans woman was allowed to be back then was very narrow. Girly. Gender conforming. Straight.

[tpwrtrmnky]

Norway’s trans healthcare in the year 2021 really does say “yeah you should come out to everyone and live as your gender for a year before doing anything permanent like trying HRT and seeing if it’s for you” in the age of the fucking internet

[queerdo-mcjewface]

My gender therapy appointment is tomorrow. I am simultaneously excited and nervous because it is one of the steps before I can get top surgery. The medical director of the clinic wrote my T presciption based on my desire to masculinize my body without giving me a hard time about being NB so I’m not too nervous, but I am still wearing jeans and t-shirt instead of my ususal dress to be safe. I was planning to bind but my chest still hurts from when I left my binder on too long on Tuesday so I will see how I feel tomorrow.

[lamuertedelperro]

When all is done and your tools have cut into me when the audience roars and Satan asks me, "How was it?" know this, with every part of you that is able to know: I'll make sure to save you a seat in the coldest theater of hell.

L, To The Idiot Doctors of The World (2019)

[bitter-trans-lesbian]

wyefox said: I know we never talk but I’m sorry to hear that, can’t imagine how frustrating it is but keep your head up, there’s always options and you know yourself better than anyone else ever will.

Idk if you just like skimmed my original post and missed the joke, or if you’re just playing along to continue the joke, but it’s like a shitpost that was mostly meant to make fun of that terf post about trans women not being able to make quesadillas that got turned into a meme that was going around a year or two ago, and also to make fun of transmedicalists both by like turning their whole lexicon into a meme  and also just like pointing out that terf logic and truscum logic tend to be based around the same completely bullshit ideas.

Like a lot of what I’m trying to get at here with the association between truscum and terfs is that they both buy into socially constructed  of biological essentialism and the importance of adhering to gender roles for trans people - 

Terfs like to claim that chromosomes, hormones, and organs are the absolute determiners of an innate totally-not-socially-constructed totally-not-a-false-dichotomy idea of biological sex while maintaining that trans people are not really their gender bc they don’t fit an arbitrary definition of biological sex, and therefore claim that trans people are only trans because of gender stereotypes (like being able to cook - that was what Terfy McTerf was trying to say)

And transmedicalists also believe that physical characteristics and a false dichotomy justified through centuries of confirmation-biased science are really important and maintain that in order to be trans you must change your body through hormones and/or surgery and that doctors are the ones who determine if you’re trans or not - you don’t come out  as trans, it’s a diagnosis in their eyes. And for the diagnosis to be made, in their opinion, a doctor should evaluate trans people’s adherence to established gender norms, and if you don’t adhere hard enough to social constructs of gender you shouldn’t be allowed to consider yourself trans. And also once you’ve “finished transitioning” you’re now cis, bc that’s totally how it works. 

Oh and doctors agree with  like 99% of the time bc they like having power over trans people women & nb folks (there’s a reason  truscum are mostly trans men they’re not nearly as fucked over by doctors as trans women and nb folks). 

So like basically 2 sides of the same coin.

So then you take the shitty terf quesadilla meme and apply truscum logic, and all of a sudden being able to cook a quesadilla becomes a test of a trans woman’s validity. Can’t be a trans woman if you’re capable of making a quesadilla, bc trans women don’t know how to make quesadillas. And I can’t prescribe you hormones unless you pass my test for being a real enough woman, because like if you’re not trans enough these hormones will make you explode or something. Or doctors will be upset bc they can’t make decisions for people and then claim it’s because of some medical facts they just made up.

Basically just a shitpost about how terfs, truscum, and gatekeeping doctors are all part of the same institutionalized transphobic systems of power...

[lisaquestions]

So like it’s never ever cool to misgender a trans person for any reason, and being trans doesn’t give anyone magical gatekeeping “true trans detection” powers. That is to say trans people should fucking well know better than to misgender other trans people. I don’t care what the reason is because there is never a valid reason.