well I get into discussions a lot. I dislike and disagree when someone says, a child was born evil, or always is evil
now let's think now, logically, but mainly emotionally maturely. A kid doesn't act out for now reason, there's always a meaning behind it, and the whole process into being a adult, really tells me that adults don't get it anymore, and won't
well as long as you don't forget, there's maybe very few adults, like me perhaps I hope to always be this way. But a child cannot be a certain way on their own, it's not possible it's the environment, parents, people, whatever is surrounded by them, is what really impacts them. Many adults, many parents don't understand how such little things can effect a child
They mirror what they're shown, and they adapt to survive the environment they're in.
Calling a child evil is projecting adult morality onto someone who is still learning how to exist. I feel this is such simple knowledge, common sense. But it's truly sad how rare people even think or believe in this
A child who lies may be avoiding punishment.
A child who's aggressive may be protecting themselves. A child who seems "cold" may have learned that emotions aren't safe. Adults see the behavior, not the reason behind it.
Now let's think about adults, a way to put is that Many adults grow up, harden, and then rewrite their own childhoods to make the world feel simpler. Admitting that small things affect children deeply means admitting responsibility, apparently a lot of people don't want to carry that weight. It's easier to label a child as "bad" than to accept that systems, parenting, and society shape outcomes. but sure it's easier to judge than to
understand. Empathy that requires energy. PIl say it once and I'll say it again. CHILDHOOD TRAUMA DOES LITERALLY REWIRE THE BRAIN. anyways when it comes to this kind of category, I’ll always have a big mouth, cause child abuse is incredibly normalized now, but sure it’s the generational trauma, then that brings unhealed adults and that becomes problematic. I have empathy towards unhealed people but I draw a hard line around children.
