"I don't know, all of them? After the shit you fucking put us through together? Yeah. I was close with all of them. — what the hell's your metric for measuring that?"
So like are we just fucked if we ever want to date.
Bc being plural has scared friends away already. I can't imagine dating when there's sm pluralphobia (is that a thing?? Like, is that the right word? Idek man) out there.
i really don’t think rottmnt splinter was a good father. and i think most of the people who’re saying he is are either 1) blinded by nostalgia and/or the “good times,” 2) heavily sympathetic/empathetic to his struggles to the point of excusing all of his actions (which, no shame, we all do it LMAO), or 3) just using him as a prop to bash on 2012.
Firstly, I am not butthurt that my fiancé/rp-partner left me, because he didn’t.
I’m the one who left him, so let’s set that straight there.
I did it for a truckload of reasons, none of which I’ll detail here, but all of which boiled down to one very important truth: that I owed it to myself - and to my daughters watching my example - to uphold my self-worth. I needed to permanently remove myself from the pattern in which I had been treated, which had been going on steadily for about ten months, and end it for good. So I did.
Secondly, I have not been “spreading rumors” about anyone. People see what goes on here on my blog and on my former partner’s. They come to me to ask me what’s happening with Aranya there, what’s happening with me, am I okay, etc, and I talk to them. I deeply appreciate everyone who’s been so kind to me for the last couple of months and given me their supportive words, hugs, love, and encouragement to keep the light on inside, that everything will be okay. It’s carried me through it all, made all the difference, and it means a lot to me, thank you.
Thirdly, I am not responsible for what others think. My partner had given me his word that he would write his last thing for our ship, his goodbyes to his wife, since we had decided together that his character would be the one to leave mine icly. He said that he would have it posted on Wednesday, the first in January... and it never happened. I reached out to him the next day, but dead silence on all fronts. In the end, I wrote up something of my own to post before the weekend and called it all done.
It comes back to my attention that what he had been doing at the time for that handful of days instead of paying any last respects to his character’s wife, was that he was posting romance and sex ask-memes with other female characters instead. Including just up and tagging another fem character with a pretty sleazy-looking gif, unrelated to any memes or anything else. (The gif below.)
Honestly, I felt sick and humiliated when it came to my attention. It felt like a slap in the face.
Knowing all this, I’ll say it again: I am not responsible for what others think. My ex partner cannot blame anyone else for getting the impression that this was the direction he aimed to go with his character, given everything that he posted on his character’s blog. If it’s not what he wanted, then I would advise that he thinks more carefully about his actions, how they may impact others’ ideas of his character, and especially how they impact the people and characters with whom he interacts.
Lastly, and very importantly, whatever things he’s done that have hurt me, it is not okay to go after someone and attack them because you think you’re helping on my behalf. You’re not. If you don’t like the whole kettle of fish any more than I do, then do what I’ve been doing: stay away. In the last two months, I’ve only contacted him for closure with our characters, getting my stuff back from him and mailing his back to him, and once on behalf of a mutual friend who needed to hear from him. That’s it.
Repeat: just stay away. It’s all anyone needs to do.
EDIT: Screenshots here and here showing that he did in fact make that gif post, since he went back some time later after this post of mine was made and deleted it.
I posted a drunk selfie last night. Just my face, nothing sexual at all, not exposing anything, just drunk. I deleted it this morning because SO MANY CREEPS reached out to me!!
I got like 6 messages, one containing an unsolicited nude, as well as a really uncomfortable ask.
My body is not inherently sexual. These are not people i follow, and not people who follow me. I want to stay in my corner of the internet and only talk to people who will respect me.
It is so frustrating as this is my only social media, yet if i post a photo of myself, i get harassed. I just want to have positive interactions, cause i i know good people are out here.
I really enjoy the kind people on this site and the small circles i am in. But. It is very frustrating to have to deal with this every time i try to express myself.
