#ultermisogyny

[this-is-transgynephobia]

Would it be considered internalized transgynephobia if I feel like I am not allowed to be transfem because I'm intersex?

I thinm that's more internalized intersexism, & the result of ultermisogyny. (probably spelled that right..)

[loreinc]

Trans Identity For Me. [Intersex Cherry Cola Tfem] -

"You're trans feminine if you're trans & have a feminine gender/You're a trans woman if you're trans and a woman."

I am trans & have that as my gender identity.

"No, you have to be transfeminized by society to identify that way."

I am transfeminized by society.

"No but you can't be female/have to be born male"

I don't fit into your sex binary. My sex characteristics are that mixed. Where do I fall?

"Well what about transition? You'd have transitioning easier. You need to be able to be transitioning to your gender"

Socially my gender autonomy is strickly taken away from me, I'm inherently thrown into an Other category. I have to fight hard to be seen as myself.

Physically, transitioning would still be needed. However, my autonomy is even more taken away from me medically by virtue of being intersex.

So I CAN transition the same as y'all, it's just harder for me & a different experience.

"But you don't only identify as feminine so you're just a tdude pretending"

god forbid i am not as digestible as a cis woman.

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No matter how much I justify myself & fit the definitions, it always changes to exclude me. Because god forbid I have an atypical experience.

[the-life-of-a-herm]

in response to this ask sent beforehand (link)

same here, its very.. scary? intimidating? petrifying? that people link certain sex characteristics to being transfem or transmasc— namely genitals and breasts. its baffling and completely counterproductive, painted with a coat of "progressive actions" and "protecting real trans folks" (sounds bad! sounds terrible! what the hell!)

like overall, ive come to notice that when people say/perpetuate that all transfems have to be "AMAB" and all transmascs have to be "AFAB", what they truly mean is that transfems all must have no breasts and a penis & all transmascs must have breasts + a vulva-uterus similarly, in order to truly validate that they are ""actually trans"" and not just ""faking it for society points"" (what society points?? theres no benefit from lying about being trans)

but also, isn't that against what people have been fighting and protesting about since forever..? the de-associatiom with a person's sex and gender? we've gone full circle from not caring about a trans person's genitals to "fact checking" wether or not they are a ""true trans[modality]"" and 'can' use these terms for their experience with gender. hello? what? where am i? who are you people???

i am a ctf transfem. ive been through loads of [trans]misoginy, intersexism, and currently people usually dont assume anything from me because i "pass as cis perisex"— but no one seems to understand that this isn't even close to what i truly want to become! and then comes the oddly mysogynistic comments about me being hysteric and a trender, a "diseased woman" (intersexism) and the like. which is so funny but in a "Haha oh god oh dear what the hell" way. very terrible! very degress-pilled! guys wake the fuck up!!!

truly, i dont think that it'll ever be useful to say "only XYZ people can be transfem/transmasc/trans[modality]". its always gonna result in the Obvious label policing and infighting and the checklist for being A Real Trans Person— which are borh ridiculous in the current status quo, we're losing our rights and people are worried about who can and who can't be trans? sounds like a sick, horrible joke. a nightmare! so many people have their head[s] up their own asses!

[if anything is poorly worded, i apologize, i'm sick and my cognitive functions are absolutely cooked ❤️‍🩹]

Hit the nail on the head with this one entirely, I have nothing to add (no spoons) and I am sorry this sat on the inbox.

[ichliebemeinkissen]

shhhhhh nobody tell her she told us she's cericertain/the-life-of-a-herm

Okay so you're obviously in the Tfem-confessions discord server (only place I ever share my other blogs), a server for intersex transfems...

Andddd are now attacking me for being intersex & transfem.. something I share a lot on this account too.. Clearly, you have an issue with people sharing their intersex experiences along with their transfem ones.

Also, still never claim to "be TME", I just don't exist how you like so you want to erase my identity and experiences. Very mask off anon!

"Hey you have a blog where you share intersex experiences, and another blog where another alter shares intersex experiences... so yr lying and your TME!!"

Literally suck my balls.

[loreinc]

The fact that i can mention that i have never really Had A Penis and people will fakeclaim my trans identity is crazy